- 7 years ago
Well I laid awake most of the night with such sadness for my DH. This was our first Christmas as a married couple. I posted a few days ago about my FIL who was supposed to be coming for Christmas dinner who then a few days before said he wasn’t coming for Christmas dinner because he wanted to see DH sister and she was upset that he was coming up for Christmas. So my FIL said they were coming up the day after Christmas to spend a few days with us. Okay, fine, not what the original plan was but at least my DH will get to see his Dad and the last 3 months we went crazy with trying to finish all the outstanding projects so my DH can show his Dad. (My DH gets pretty excited about stuff like that).
So the day before Christmas we also get a box of cookies for DH sister, neither one of us knew how to make of it, I really feel that the intentions were not there for doing it, we texted her thanking her and acknowledging her for the cookies and not a word from her. Why send the cookies then? I feel like she just went through the motion of sending us something, I’m not sure how my FIL feels about the situation, but he has been pretty distant with us the week leading up to Christmas and then more so on Christmas day when he finally called his son at 8:00 at night to wish him a Merry Christmas and also tell him that they weren’t coming AT ALL. Total shocker, he really didn’t have a reason at all, he told my DH something but then he told me something else when I spoke to him, and he sounded very distant. After getting off the phone with him both me and my DH were just dumbfounded, the big deal about having dinner at his daughters house didn’t even happen, he actually hadn’t seen her all day, she told him she was going to call him to let him know when he could come over for dinner and as of 8:00 at night she never called him…so maybe the distance was more so because of his daughter but I just can’t believe that my DH had no family, none this Christmas. We talked about it a bit last night as I know he was upset and disappointed but I just couldn’t shake the sadness. My DH started to cry when he spoke about my family and how wonderful they are to him, and how he really feels that my family is really his family, he says the bond he feels with my father is wonderful and how my mother makes him feel like her own son and he said he is so grateful to have such family like that. My DH said he still can’ believe that his mother has not yet realized what she did to him and us and even his sister for that matter, I think he thought by now his mom would have at least reached out and apologized but the more time that goes on the more he is realizing that his mom cares too much about herself then him to even attempt to try and have us in her life. Oh well, I just needed to get it all out, release my emotions and move on.
Thanks bees for listening and I hope everyone had a wonderful Holiday! XXOO