Post # 1
We are not TTC, but I have a friend who is and lives in another city. She lives in an apartment and while shes getting support ffrom back home (smaller town) she’s getting a lot of negative from those around her in the city to have a baby in an apartment. It’s almost 700sqf, which is close to our own and I got thinking…
Is it that bad to have a baby in an apartment? With us, I’m not sure about my friend, but we DO want to get a house after were married, but not ASAP. If we have a child will people look down on us? Should it matter? How big of a place do you need for kids? 🙁
Post # 3
What the hell difference does it make? A home is a home no matter the size or shape or whether there is a deed or a lease involved. It has a roof and walls and the baby will be well protected and taken care of. There is nothing wrong with raising children in an apartment, people do it all the time.
Post # 4
@Haruyou: I fail to see the problem.
Post # 5
I’d hate to be their neighbors, but that’s what you have to deal with living in an apartment.
Post # 6
I can’t imagine anyone looking down on you for having a baby in an apartment. Besides, if they do, so what? That type of person will find a reason to look down on everyone, it’ll be one thing or another.
My FI and I will be having a little one in September. FI owns the house but right now it’s split into 3 apartments so we’re in one. In around September we’ll start working on turning it back into a one family house. We figure for the first 9 months or so the kid won’t need much room. They can’t go anywhere on their own until the crawl and even then they won’t need a ton of space.
The one thing we are worried about though is storage space. As it is we’re using one of the two other apartments as mostly storage for our stuff but once we get a bunch of baby stuff we’ll really need that extra space.
Post # 7
@lauraashley09: In our apartment there’s quite a few kids of all ages, from newborn to 15. I thought it was normal, but I never thought there’d be backlash? o:
Post # 8
People all over the world raise children in an apartment. In many countries it’s simply unheard of to have all the space in a single family house that we North Americans think is necessary.
Post # 9
@Haruyou: We currently live in an apartment and our neighbors right across from of us have a baby. It’s never been an issue. When we are in our living room we occasionally hear the baby cry, but its not an issue to us. We have weird crack head neighbors below us that are a way bigger issue than babies or young kids are and our whole building agrees on that, haha.
I never thought anything of ihaving a baby in an apartment because well, most people I’ve known couldnt afford to buy a house right after being married. Sure, it would be awesome to have your own house but I don’t think that it’s always realistic to think that everyone will get married, buy a house, THEN have a baby. I know for DH and I, we probably will be people who have live in an apartment, have a baby, then buy a house.
Post # 11
@Haruyou: It’s normal to have kid #1 or even #2 in your apt / condo where I live. Other neighborhoods in the city, you probably wouldn’t want to have a kid in (think drug dealers, strip clubs, prostitutes and street people) but people do what they need to do.
Just depends on what’s considered “normal” in your neck of the woods.
Post # 12
Oh lord, babies have been raised in caves and huts and are we as humans still exist. In most places around the world, they are raised in living quarters smaller than 700 sqf. Baby needs love, attention, food and good medical care. Not sure exactly where you live but im assuming that since your on WB, you are probably in the developed world. You are fine and baby will thrive!
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
We had a baby while living in an apartment. We didn’t have any problems. There were lots of other parents with infants, toddlers, and small children in our neighborhood. An infant doesn’t even notice the wall 20 ft from it, let alone large rooms and a yard.
Post # 14
I personally would not try to have a baby while living in an apartment. However, we live in an area where houses are affordable and I know not everyone is in a position to have a house before having a baby so I don’t judge them.
I would really hate to be the neighbors though…
Post # 15
@Haruyou: I’m from a family where people judge if you don’t own a house before having kids. We are pregnant and live in an apartment. So people CONSTANTLY tell us about how important home ownsership is. (Yes, because we just love spending 1800/mo on rent…)
So we just have to keep repeating “With (DH’s) job, it doesn’t make sense to buy a house just yet.”
Again. And again. And again. And again.
Post # 16
My DH grew up in a 2 bedroom less than 1000 sq ft house with 2 younger siblings. Guess what? Hes fine. And they are very close and I feel like its because of their close living arrangements. ..