Post # 1
Hi! I am pretty new to weddingbee, and to forums in general so hopefully I’ve managed to post this question in the right place. Also, it’s kind of a long story, so I apologize in advance for the wall of text!
After literally months of discussion this winter I finally convinced my bf that I really, genuinely *don’t* want a diamond engagement ring, and I’d prefer an aquamarine instead. We talked about the design a bit, and settled on a round aquamarine center stone with a diamond halo set in white gold or platinum. I would have been happy with just a solitaire, but according to him diamonds are mandatory, hence the halo setting. He has family connections with a jeweler in the philippines, so he’s planning to have them make the ring when his mom goes back to the philippines next month.
So, in the excitement of knowing that my ring will be in the works fairly soon, I started looking at rings online today. Aaand I found this:
And I said, “Wow!”
No other ring has had that much of a wow factor for me before. I really love it! Here’s the etsy listing for more details:
It still satisfies his requirement of including diamonds so I know he’ll be fine with it. But I’m not sure if I should change my choice or not. For one, most of the jewelry that I wear is silver-colored, and my daily earrings are tiny aquamarine studs. The aquamarine and white-gold design would match my existing stuff so much better. The pinkish color is a lot more girly than my usual style too. Also, if I try to change to the peach sapphire design I’m not sure if his family jeweler connection will be able to make it as nice as the one in the pictures. I’m not sure how rare peach-colored sapphires are, but this is the first ring that I’ve seen that has one.
But, I *really* like it. Supposedly my coloring is more suited to gold jewelry than silver anyway, and it’s not like it’s that hard to buy a new pair of stud earrings. So should I have his jeweler try to recreate this ring instead of the aqua? Or should I try to convince him to outright buy this exact ring instead of using his family connection to have one made? I need help deciding!
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Post # 3
Your engagement ring probably won’t/ doesn’t have to be the last ring your man will ever give you. Personally, I think I would be much happier having the ring be something he picks out or designs himself (with a little guidance)… It’s so much more meaningful that way, than pointing to something and saying, “here is the exact gift I want you to give me to symbolize your commitment to me!” Know what I’m saying? Anyway, if you are still in love with halo’ed peach sapphires in rose gold in a few years, you could suggest that for an anniversary, or a push present maybe!
Post # 4
That is such a beautiful ring, I am in love with it!!! I think that this ring seems more unique, I’ve never seen one that color.
Post # 5
OMG! That ring is gorgeous!! I would want that for my e-ring! I am soo picky about rings, and I change my mind A LOT, I am driving my poor bf CRAZY! But anyways, that ring is stunning. I would ask my bf to get it for me, after all it is what you are going to have to look at everyday, and you should get what makes you happy=)
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Post # 8
that’s a good point! I definitely got caught up in the ring search fever when it is not really supposed to be my choice. This ring has me so excited, but I know when the time comes I’ll be happy with whatever he chooses/designs.
sorry about the double post, can’t figure out what’s making it delete parts of my post, and then it’s creating new posts when i try to edit…
Post # 9
I think we all get a bout of ring fever at some point! 🙂 I’m glad you can see yourself being happiest with something he ultimately chooses for you. I’m sure you will be so thrilled with it and it will be such a personal, sentimental symbol. Plus you know he won’t totally screw it up cause you gave him a little direction already, haha! Looking forward to seeing your proposal story with your aqua ring!!
Post # 10
Why don’t you at least let him know that you found it and show him the pictures and talk with him about it, and then leave it up to him to pick one out/have one made for you. He probably wants to make you happy, and if he doesn’t know there’s “another ring,” then you may end up making yourself miserable by never speaking up. At least if you give him the option then you’ll always know that he picked what he thought was best for you, and if he doesn’t pick this one then it’s not meant to be, right?
Post # 11
You’ve obviously discussed it a lot so I don’t see why you shouldn’t see if it can be made for you. Maybe you can get something similar if not an exact replica. From your description its a lot like your original idea just a different color.
I’d sleep on it a few days. Look around for other colors with similar styles, but if it has the wow and he’s getting it made to your specs anyway I don’t see the problem.
As for it matching your other jewelry. I don’t think your wedding/e-ring necessarily has to match all of your other jewelry. It’s not a super intense color anyway and the band is so thin I wouldn’t bother matching all my jewelry to it. You can wear white gold earrings and a rose gold ring without looking tacky–especially when it’s that delicate!
Post # 12
That etsy ring is stunning!!! I’m really starting to have a thing for rose gold…. I would show it to him & see what he thinks- he can always see if his jeweler can recreate the setting with the peach sapphire & rose gold instead, since it’s pretty close to your original design. He’d still be handling the purchase, you’ve just changed your mind about what you want for stone & metal. Or he may possibly be glad to just buy the etsy ring & not go through the process with the other jeweler??? I know my guy would be happy to simplify it for himself & get exactly what he knows I want, if this situation were mine.
Good luck, sounds like you’ll get a beautiful ring either way!
Post # 13
I love the etsy ring and i LOVE rose gold , I would show him both and have him make the ultimate decision
Post # 15
Don’t get me wrong, that’s a stunning ring, but I would think it over for two or three days before you bring it up. It could be confusing and potentially upsetting for your BF if you change your mind in favor of something so different, especially if you’re not 100% certain. I’m sure he really wants to get you a ring you will love, and switching to such a different style could really add to the pressure he feels if he wants the ring to be at all a surprise. That said, if after two or three days you’re convinced that’s the one, then go for it!
There are two other issues I would consider long and hard:
1. It’s going to be very difficult to find a band that works with that ring. I know there’s a matching band on Etsy which does look nice with it, but bear in mind that there’s going to be a very sizable gap between the two rings, and there’s nothing you can do about it. I looked at a somewhat similar (blue) sapphire ring framed with diamonds and decided against it mainly because I knew it would drive me nuts if my wedding band didn’t sit nicely against my engagement ring. Obviously lots of women feel very differently about this–just something to be aware of. Of course, this goes for your original design as well. Have you tried on any rings in this style? If your BF is open to it, I would really suggest going to a jewelry store and trying on different shapes/sizes/settings just to get a sense of how they look and feel on your finger.
2. Think about wearability. You could always get a lovely cocktail ring along these lines as an anniversary present if you really want something like this, but you wouldn’t have to wear it every day and worry about coordinating all of your jewelry to it.
Good luck! Let us know what you decide!
Post # 16
your aquamarine ring sounds prettier- but that’s just me! I love aquamarines.
plus, if you were willing to get your original e ring choice in platinum, I would recommend that! platinum is the best quality metal. if I had two choices and one was better quality, I’d choose quality any day. I’m kind of practical like that.
but go with what you love! think about it carefully, don’t rush into it!