Suffering Waiting Anxiety Today

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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802 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

@shellybee13:  I hear you!! We’ve talked a lot about a September wedding… I’m just anxious about what options are going to be available. 

I just keep telling myself that we’ll get married when we’re meant to! If we don’t end up being able to do September… we can do any other month! 

I just know I want it to be in the next year… I also don’t know if he bought the ring yet (even though we had the detailed discussion and got a quote). I feel like it’s coming before the end of the year too, but the stress of an impeding surprise is hard not to think about constantly! Everytime we make slightly special plans, I’m on guard. I cannot help it!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@shellybee13:  I am also hoping for an October/fall wedding, preferably next year, but I am stuck waiting! His mom and I have pretty much picked a venue and a time frame, but of course, I can’t do a THING until or if he proposes. 

In my opinion, since October is a fairly popular time of year for weddings, I think that two weeks in between would be fine. It is a lot longer of a time frame than it sounds. By that time, the first couple has had plenty of wedding/marriage/spotlight moment-ness, and it is definitely okay after that. If it were just one week apart, though, I think that might be a little different.

Since your SO is assuring you that he just wants to wait for the perfect moment, I would say his proposal plans are not far off. He wouldn’t say that just to give you false hope, especially if he knows you have your heart set on an October wedding. Just breathe, and know that everything will work out! 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Since they are a friend and not family, 2 week between should be fine. The only thing is, are they close friends you will want in your wedding party? Considering the honeymoon they may not be back in time for your wedding, or if they are, may just be stepping off the plane barely in time to make it. Also, do you have a lot of mutual friends? It would be too bad if all your friends are “weddinged out” by the time your wedding comes along. I think there’s nothing wrong with having it right after, but maybe consider if those things would bother you.

Post # 9
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802 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

@shellybee13:  I think that’s a good sign he does! I am SOOOO scared mine won’t fit me, I was sized in August. Heres hoping he proposes when my hands are cold. I got sized when I was hot and clammy. 

Post # 10
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511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@shellybee13:  Yikes, I definitely wouldn’t just assume they will be willing to move their honeymoon for you. I travel a fair bit but my honeymoon is something completely different than just travel and it’s REALLY important to me, I wouldn’t move it or cut it short for anyone. At the same time, you’re not required to move your wedding to accommodate their honeymoon! But I think it would be reasonable of him if he had to decline attending.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@shellybee13:  Since you and the other bride are not close friends, then I definitely think the time frame would be fine. Especially since you have two different wedding styles. Also, I don’t think you should worry too much about moving the date for the other couple’s honeymoon. Try not to sweat the small stuff…after all, it is impossible to please everyone.

Also, this is random, but does anyone know when the perfect time to get sized for a ring would be?? I got sized this weekend…my fingers are already tiny and I want no chance of the potential ring slipping off!!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@shellybee13:  First of all, congrats on being so close to being engaged and figuring this all out!  How exciting!

Okay soooo, it’s your day and you can do what you want.  A lot of bees on here will say that unless it’s family, 2 weeks should be plenty fine. 

Just a different perspective:

I know a woman who had to go to her two younger sister’s weddings, be in them and watch them get married first.  Then all of her friends started to get engaged and after her BFF got engaged, she fell into a deep depression, wouldn’t get out of bed whatever.  So, her now husband proposes while she’s in bed bc she can’t bear to get out to go to dinner. 

She picks her wedding to be three weeks before her BFF’s date. 

Just want to throw that out there-because I can tell you how it looks and the awkward jokes that were made at the wedding. 

Is Oct 2015 too long of an engagement for you?  Just a thought.

Otherwise, I doubt it’ll be a big deal.  Just playing devils advocate.

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