Suggested wedding guest attire – how do I tell my guests what to wear?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I would go with a blurb on your wedding website and word of mouth. As a DW, you probably wont have a huge number of attendees. Between you, your FI, and your close family members, it should be fairly easy to spread the word that it’s a sandals and sun dresses type of wedding.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

Include it on the website.
Boom! 🙂
No need for a cute poem, or the extra wording on the invite. If it’s a beach wedding, I think people would know what to wear though.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@LaEsposa:  At the bottom of your invite you can say “Beach casual attire is requested”. On your website you can say: “Please dress comfortably– you will be in the hot sand! I recommend that the guys leave the suits at home and wear khakis and button down shirts and that the ladies stick to sun dresses and flat shoes.”

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@LaEsposa:  Wedding website info for sure.  I even posted pics of people in the clothing I was thinking of so there would be examples.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@LaEsposa:  All you can do is let people know the conditions for the wedding (outdoor, in sand, etc). and suggest a level of attire. Then let it be. Some will be more formally dressed than you would choose and some less formally dressed. That’s how these things work. But that’s okay. I had a backyard wedding and got lots of questions about what to wear, so I put this on our website: 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@LaEsposa:  Please don’t do a poem. Those tend to be quite ghastly.

i think a quick line somewhere about casual/beach wear being fine is fine.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@LaEsposa:  We did it on our wedding website. We explained that our wedding is on so-and-so type of terrain which makes it hard for stiletto heels. We also explained that the weather is going to be hot. We said that cocktail attire was suggested which would be in line with the modern feel of our reception

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@LaEsposa:  We had a similar situation.  Our DW was held at a rugged site in the mountains with rocky, unpaved trails.

Therefore, we described the surroundings on our website and emphasized that guests should wear footwear appropriate for the terrain, and that they were encouraged to go exploring after the ceremony while we took pictures.

Post # 12
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11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@LaEsposa:  We put a section on our wedding website that indicated the suggested attire for guests. We put our wedding website address on our invitation so that everyone knew where to look.

Even if you make suggestions there will undoubtedly be someone that ignores or overlooks the suggestions so be prepared if that bothers you. We implicitly said NO jeans as our wedding was very formal. Yet a friend’s husband came in wearing bright blue jeans. I was beyond irritated considering that she of all people knew what our wedding was going to be like and had even asked about my feelings about jeans. Some people will just do what they want regardless of what is required, requested or acceptable.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

wedding website and spread the word.  tell your mom, moh, friends, cousins, etc.  word will get around.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@LaEsposa:  Just put it on your wedding website. That being said, no one read my wedding website even though it was listed on our STD and an insert in our invite packet. We still had people calling asking where to stay, etc. FWIW, I’m a beach wedding photographer, and despite my couples being physically married in the sand – there are always people who show up in suits and heels. They look pretty silly – but to each their own. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We’re getting married on a lake, and the grass tends to be a little soft. I put something on our website about the venue being outdoors, and followed it up with “Dressy-Casual attire appreciated. Dancing shoes highly encouraged, but heels that might sink in the ground are not reccomended.”

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