Post # 1
Backstory- in my family/culture, baby showers are a no-no, unless the baby is already home and healthy. Clearly this is an uncommon viewpoint in the US.
One of my very best friends is pregnant and her family is throwing her a shower after the holidays. I’ll be giving her a baby gift after the baby is born, but want to have something for her at the shower.
Any suggestions? If I can’t think of anything better, I’ll probably do a gift certificate to a restaurant in her area that I know she and her husband really like. But I was trying to think of something pregnancy-related that’s not inappropriate to give as a gift.
Post # 3
How about a pre-natal massage?
Post # 4
@lawyerbride15: You could get her a gift card for a store that carries baby items (eg: Target or Walmart). Another idea would be a gift card for a spa/manicure/pedicure. I’m 28 weeks pregnant and would love it if someone gave me a gift card for a pedicure since I can’t really reach my toes anymore lol.
Post # 5
@lawyerbride15: How about really nice lotions, bath soaks, rice heating pad- “relaxing” items–I know it might sound generic, but if you take the time to find something nice- organic stuff that smells good, not perfume-y– I really like those sorts of items if they’re of high quality and natural.
Post # 6
I buy my friends nice hand creams, sleeping masks, pyjamas, pretty slippers and stuff. Things they can pamper themselves with.
I have also clubbed together with other friends in the past to organise a cleaning and laundry service that started 2 weeks before birth and to a month after so friends didn’t have to stress. It was super appreciated.
I have to say, I think that a restaurant certificate is a fabulous idea too, but maybe explain to her why you are going with a ‘her’ present for the shower etc 🙂
Post # 7
@BagsnBooks: first thing I thought too!
Post # 8
I 3rd the prenatal massage suggestion. At 26 weeks, I could really use one some days!
Post # 9
@lawyerbride15: For her birthday a few weeks before she was due, I gave a friend a gift certificate to a spa near her and a “coupon” for babysitting during said spa day. I figured once she was ready to be away from the baby that would be a great chance for her to relax and be pampered. It was very well received.
You could also give her a parenting book (like “What to expect in the first year”). I have heard SOOO many new moms say they read all about what pregnancy would be like but NOTHING about having a baby to care for! So that’s “for her” but also baby shower appropriate.
Post # 10
I totally agree with something to pamper her like a mani pedi or massage, or maybe a subscription to Fit Pregnancy or something?
Post # 11
I once went to a shower when someone gave the mommy to be a coffee maker….she was soooo happy with it and said “thank you I am going to need this to stay awake” …. I thought it was a cool non baby related gift.
Post # 12
@lawyerbride15: I bought a girlfriend of mine a gorgeous maternity dress as a present ahead of time, because no one thinks about the pregnant lady that can’t fit into her clothes anymore, and how expensive it is to find new clothes. She loved it and wore it to her baby shower, and through her pregnancy.
Post # 13
Philosophy has some nice setsor L’Occtaine
Post # 14
@lawyerbride15: What about a spa voucher? Somewhere she might be able to choose out of a massage, facial, manicure/pedicure, aromatherapy… you know. Something she can pamper herself with.
Post # 15
I would love to have a gift card for a manicure and pedicure!
Post # 16
Maybe get her a cute “grown up” DVD that has to do with motherhood or marriage. My sister sent me “what to expect when you’re expecting” on dvd and it cracked me up!