Post # 1
This is my very first post. I love this site, you all have such great advice and questions, hopefully you all are able to help me with mine.
I need to find shoes for my bridesmaids but have no idea where to start. I would love for them to wear heels but some of them haven’t stepped one foot in heels in 10 years, and of course I want them to be comfortable. I was thinking maybe flats??? or just small heels. Any suggestions?
Here is a link to my dresses (MS215), the color is leaf green though (not the blue color that comes up when you open the site).
Post # 3
Are you set on them all matching? Maybe you could just suggest a color and let them pick their own. Then everyone would be comfortable :o)
Post # 4
I’m with hotchild…I picked a color and let the BMs find what fit their style =)
Post # 5
Let them pick what they like. Perhaps you can choose the color. That way everyone is happy in the end. Also, if you require a certain look, you are responsible for paying for it yourself.
Post # 6
The last wedding I was in, the bride asked us to pick our own shoes as long as they could be dyed to match the dress. I now have an awesome $80 pair of bright red shoes I’ll probably never wear.
I plan to either let my girls pick shoes in silver (black dresses) or I’ll buy them matching green shoes.
I would suggest getting a consensus from your maids on what they prefer. Depending on your accent colors silver shoes would look pretty with that color. And I always love a reason to buy a new pair of silver shoes. That way they could each pick shoes that are comfortable and they have the chance of wearing again.
Post # 7
I’m kind of torn on whether or not I want the shoes to all match, I def want them to be all the same color though
Post # 8
@IrishMiller: I think it’s really hard to ask everyone to wear matching shoes. Some people literally can’t walk in heels and some people are not comfortable in flats.
I took a general consensus from my bridesmaids to see what color shoes they would like to wear. They all keep saying silver (bright pink dresses) and I think that’s fine so we’re just going with that. I’m just saying any silver shoes you want, no flip flops (this unfortunately does need to be specified to a couple of BMs!)
Post # 9
If you decide that you want them to match, then I would suggest you footing the bill; but if your open to letting them choose but just asking for a color, that gives your Bridesmaid or Best Man freedom to pick a style they like.
My girls actually wore leaf green dresses too & they wore gold shoes of their liking; it all looked really cute & the girls looked adorable in shoes that reflected their individual stlye 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
My suggestion, like the girls above, is to let them choose their own shoes (you can certainly pick the color and style–like all peep-toes, or all flats, or no heels under 1″, or whatever–but let them have some selection of the individual shoe!). I will always wear whatever dress a bride chooses without thought of complaining if I’m in her wedding party, but I can’t stand when they pick my shoes. Shoes are just so… personal, and I have always had to bring a second pair for the party whenever someone else has picked my shoes for me. They always seem to pick painful ones. 🙁
Post # 11
One of my BMs basically lives in 4-inch stilettos. Whereas my Maid/Matron of Honor has issues with one of her hips, and I’m pretty sure that heels that high would send her over the edge. To avoid being sued for podiatrist bills (j/k!), I just told my ladies to find silver sandals. And I’m kind of excited to see what they come up with – who knows, one of them could have such a fantastic find that I might want to get a pair!
Post # 12
I was a bridesmaid in 2 weddings this past summer, and both brides specified the color and let us choose the style. No one noticed my shoes in either wedding. With one wedding, the requirement was gold sandals–all 5 of us had different shades of gold, with varying levels of strappiness, height, and metallic sheen. I can’t think of a single picture where our shoes were the focal point, either. With the other, we were in long dresses, and I have no idea what shoes any of the other ladies wore. I don’t think anybody else did, either. Neither bride paid any attention to any of our shoes. Keeping that in mind, my bridesmaids will pick whatever shoe they want to wear in whatever color, style, or heel height of their choosing, because I know the question of whether or not I like their shoes will not cross my mind that day!! Plus, I trust their tastes to pick appropriate shoes.
Post # 13
You all have such great advice! Thank you! So I think I have narrowed it down to either gold or silver, and let the Bridesmaid or Best Man pick.
Post # 14
Im letting my girls choose. I havent told them this yet! But we are going to do brown dresses and I want them to wear whatever shoes they want. Meaning if they want to wear bright green shoes they can! I dont think people pay all that much attention to shoes so I just want my girls to have shoes that they either already own (not requiring them to spend anymore $$) or shoes that they will definitely wear again.