Post # 1
Just curious as to ways to include FI’s family in to ceremony. They all live out of town, so although we all get along, we’re not like “talk on the phone every week close” (except for FMIL of course). He doesn’t have any sisters, but has 3 female cousins who he sort of grew up with like brother/sisters. He also has 2 neices who I adore (age 9 & 12 or 13 by the time wedding roles around). As far as my bridal party is concerned, I have a few non-negotiable bridesmaids – my BFF/MOH and my sister, as well as my high school/college BFF that now lives a few hours away. So there’s 3 for sure bridesmaids. I myself also have 2 neices I would like to include in ceremony – ages 14 & 18 by the time wedding comes. I also have 2 other girls who I’m very close with now (Me, MOH, and these 2 girls are a little “wolf pack” so to speak)… So part of me would like to include them too. However, I would like to have no more than 6 bridesmaids. We’re not getting married in a church so to my knowledge there will be no readings per se. I know I can possibly have his two younger neices pass out programs or something, but is there any other creative ways I can include either them or his cousins (who are all adults) in the ceremony if I can’t fit everyone in bridal party?? Any suggestions would def be welcome. I hope this post wasn’t too confusing lol!
Post # 2
KatJoy227: I’m having my niece (she’ll be 13 at the wedding) as a junior bridesmaid, I’m having my two nephews & future brother in law (15, 13, & 10) as ushers & they’ll also escort our moms to their seats. I’m having my fiance’s niece & my future sister-in-law plus a close family friend (2,9,&4) as flower girls. Maybe do some kind of unity ceremony as a family?
Post # 3
Omg I don’t even know how I forgot to mention! Our flower girls will be our 5 & 7 year old daughters! Otherwise I’d def haf his youngest niece as one! I could probably use one of his younger cousins as an usher. He’ll be around 16 at time of wedding! I never thought about that!
Post # 4
My feeling is: although it’s very thoughtful of you to want to include his cousins, you can’t include everyone. (By my count there are 12 different girls you’ve mentioned). I think it is ok to just have the cousins as guests and in the family photos. Also your two friends (the ones who are also MOH’s friends) – they can be involved in other things (bachelorette party, some special photos) without the need to have them in the bridal party.
EDIT: If you’ve already got your 2 daughters as flower girls, it’s probably not necessary to fit your nieces in either, if you think the bridal party is getting too big. It’s obviously ok to give preference to your own daughters!
Post # 5
You can do readings even though you aren’t getting married in a church. So some of them can do readings 🙂
Post # 6
Maybe have some of them as ushers? Here it is common if you have a larger family than bridal party to have them act as ushers. And then they also get a corsage/bouteneire too.
Post # 7
KatJoy227: You could do a reading that’s non-religious. Check out http://offbeatbride.com/ for some ideas. I’ve been to weddings where “readings” are song lyrics, poems, quotes from movies…. Our wedding is non-religious and we are doing a Tying of the Knot style cermony- family members are all helping- some phsically tying the ropes around our hands, others reading.
You could also have them pass out programs, favors, manage the guest book or any other ‘in need of minor supervision’ tasks (my friend did a polaroid book in addition to guest book, so her cousin took the pix). If not part of the ceremony, they could help during reception.
At the same time, I agree with PP that you don’t necessarily need to have them. At some point you realize that there are just too many involved. If you didn’t have your shower yet, ask whoever is planning it to perhaps include them ( the girls at least ) then? They will feel super special knowing they were chosen to help-run gifts, or pass out a fun drink or favor to all the ladies.