Suggestions Needed for Post Wedding Non-Honeymoon Wind Down.

posted 1 year ago in Honeymoons
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Busy bee

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Bumble bee

First off, congratulations on your new marriage and, what sounds like, a beautiful wedding!  Congrats also on your soon-to-be baby!  I agree with trying to make this post-wedding week special, but I guess I would suggest not putting too much pressure on trying to make this time magical.  With everything you have going on and being 7 months pregnant, maybe just make a point to do a few special things but don’t put the expectation on “magical” or “amazing” on it.  Can you possibly afford to get a couple’s massage?  You could get a pre-natal massage while your husband gets a regular one.  I know the weather’s nice in Australia right now–maybe plan a picnic in a park?  You could have a movie night at home one evening–make your favorite treats and cuddle up with a couple of movies.  Are there any nice places nearby where you could maybe take a little day trip to, try a new restaurant, etc…?    Congratulations again on everything!

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Honey bee

It’s totally normal to feel a bit let down after the wedding is over, and if it’s not the less-than-stellar B&B getaway, it would be something else. Everyone gets it; it’s only a question of what flavor yours is.  You’ve spent months, and tons of money and energy, putting your wedding together and now it’s over, and you’ve got a whole lot more free time with nothing to fill it. It’s like December 29 for every little kid who gets presents on Christmas: the anticipation is over, there’s nothing to look forward to, and you’re bored with your toys already.  The B&B experience is of course an easy one to focus on, but it could really be anything post-wedding that wasn’t up to your expectations, even something as small as your favorite restaurant being out of your favorite dish.  

So first, accept that you have some post-wedding blues, and that it’s normal and natural, because knowing it’s there really helps cope with it.

Next, find some normal, routine things to help fill your time, maybe learn a new craft or hobby, or challenge yourself to mastering one new recipe a week.  Life can’t always be champagne and fireworks; find joy in those day-to-day things.

And always be on the lookout for fun things to capture your imagination for a few hours. See if your city has a group doing foodie walking tours or chocolate tastings, hit some of the major tourist attractions that you might not have been to, go see a random theatre show.  This will help break up the routine without being too much of a time sucker or financial burden.

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Busy bee

Could you do something simple and affordable like a lovely day trip to the Barossa (take a picnic) or spend a day in the Botanic Gardens. We recently spent a night at Mt Lofty house and whilst only up the freeway, it felt like such a getaway and felt really special. However, at seven months pregnant please don’t feel let down about not doing anything after the wedding. You are doing enough as it is :) Just being together is what counts.

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Bumble bee

Maybe designate a night at home ‘no electricity’ night.  Turn off all phones, TVs, computers/gadgets.  Light lots & lots of candles, pillows & blankets.  Have a nice romantic evening with your new hubby snuggling in the living room & bedroom & anywhere else in the house that’s comfy :)

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Bumble Beekeeper

@SharlaK:  Aw, no wonder you’re feeling a bit defeated!! You poor thing.

I think you’re handling it all WAY better than I would.

The thing my SO and I do is plan our next little getaway as soon as we can after coming back from holiday/big life event/etc.

You need something to look forward to. And a little bit of TLC!!

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Busy bee

@SharlaK:  My daughter is planning 3 nights in a hotel.  She actually said that they just want to be enclosed together, left alone with lots of room service.  I thought that it was silly but after reading your post, maybe it is a good idea for them to unwind and enjoy each other.

Congratulations on your wedding and all the planning you and your husband did for the big day.  You are amazing to do all this and be 7 months pregnant.

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