Post # 1
My fiance works in a very beautiful historic theater in our town and the owners have offered it to us for our wedding. Although that sounds great, there’s a Big problem. They can only offer it to us any other day besides Friday or Sundays because there is usually other type of big events and concerts on those nights. We had thought Sunday would be ok with us for our wedding but our catholic church DOES NOT at all celebrate weddings on Sundays since it’s a day for the community to come to church. We also thought that maybe we could be married in the beautiful terrace of the theater by a priest and have it recognized by the church. We only have 5 more months left till our wedding date and have to come up with a solution for this problem. I really need help!!! Can anybody suggest anything, please?!?! HELP!!!
Post # 3
Can you move the wedding to Friday?
I’ve never seen a church allow a Sunday wedding, and while you can petition your bishop for a dispensation to have the “non-church” wedding, it’s usually reserved for dire circumstances and I’m not sure how long it can take. It’s also not something you could “count on” as it’s not easily obtained.
You best bet would be to move it to Friday, more than likely.
We faced something similar. My FSIL works in an awesome old thether concert venue that doesn’t do wedding but could offer it to us on the same circumstances. We went elsewhere because for us, the “marriage” sacrament is what the wedding is all about.
I wish you the best of luck, keep us all updated
Post # 4
My wedding is on a Sunday and in a Catholic church, as long as it was after Mass times they didnt mind AT ALL. Could you look into another church maybe that would allow it? Or are you really set on your church? If thats the case maybe Friday evening is an option?
Post # 5
We had also consider Friday and wanted the ceremony to be at around 2pm but most of our friends work in schools and unfortunatly they would all be at work at the time and date. There’s no way they could all miss because most are from the same school. The theater also told us that they wouldn’t be sure if we could have Friday 9-17-10 until June. Imagine that!!! I can’t be sure of when my wedding date is going to be until 3 months before. I have other things to book and need a secure date!
It would just be perfect if the church would allow to marry us at a later time after the community mass but they just won’t, even if there’s no mass at that time. It would also be too late to look into other churches.
Post # 6
Have you considered getting married in the church in a private ceremony first and then have the “big” wedding on the day you want? That way, you could still have the Catholic wedding and get married on a Sunday on the theater terrace. I believe ms. pascua (another board member) is doing this, and it seems to working out well for her.
Post # 7
I think it’s possible to have a Church wedding on Sunday, but you’ll have to use those readings and have a really awesome priest.
Post # 8
I’m confused: the theater can only offer it to on Friday and Sundays? Or the rest of the days? If so, just switch the day to Friday or Saturday.
Post # 9
Saturdays are usually a no because it’s a big revenue night…. the 3 months out is also because if they book a show, then they need to take the revenue over the free or cheap event.
Honestly, Having been in your exact same position…. the moment I let go of the theater was the best decision I made. It was such a hassle and while it would have been really cool, the stress and influence for the bad it was having on our wedding wasn’t worth it.
Post # 10
It depends on the diocese/ state/ city you live in. Some will allow a catholic sunday wedding some won’t. I’ve even heard of it being allowed during normal mass times as long as the rest of the community is allowed to join in (which would be weird). The church allows weddings on every other day of the week. So why not have it on Friday? The other option could be to go ahead and have it at the theater on Sunday and then get your marriage blessed after the honeymoon or close to that day. Or, someone just mentioned to have a small ceremnoy before the big ceremony. Good Luck!
Post # 11
@lovespearls, I’ve never heard of a Sunday wedding in the church. Are you having a Catholic wedding in the Catholic church or just using the church as a venue?
We really wanted to have our wedding on the Sunday in our church, as it would have landed on the first day we met, but they wouldn’t let us =(
We ended up settling the Friday before due to other circumstances, but it still irks me a little. I think when we do anniversaries we’ll just do a three type type ‘love’ celebration or pick the day we met date instead.
Post # 12
I also have never heard of a Sunday Catholic wedding.
If you are determined to have it on Sunday, you could have your wedding done in another area of the theater by a justice of the peace, or someone else that’s ordained, and have your vows read in the Catholic church at a later date. Just my first thought.
Post # 13
You can have a wedding in a church on Sunday, but you can’t close the place down and just invite people you want. But, technically, the priest could marry you in the middle of the regular Sunday mass. Which I doubt is what you are picturing.
Post # 14
With all due respect, if you are Catholic, then I would highly encourage you to get married in a Catholic Church. Here are the reasons why:
1) In the Church, is the Tabernacle (aka GOD’s personal home)
2) Eucharist (aka communion) is the most important to a Catholic as that is the method by which we Catholics receive the TRUE/Actual body, soul, and divinity of Christ
3) At your wedding, would you want your father to be present? I’m sure your Father (GOD) would want to be present at your wedding as well.
Again, I hope you do not take offense to this note, but as Catholics, we are Eucharist centered and there is an outpouring of grace when we receive communion. Also in Mass, we are able to celebrate our weddings alongside the communion of Saints… So all of the angels and saints would also be in attendance at your Mass.
Post # 15
Hey there! I could definitelybe wrong about this, but I thought when you get married outside of the church (like physically outside of the church – on a beach, at a vineyard, etc.), that you cannot have the full catholic mass regardless. Something about priests not being able to perform the liturgy without being in the actual church. So, if that is the rule, then technically I think you should be fine getting married on Sunday, so long as you can find a priest to do it… but I doubt you will have the full wedding mass (including the liturgy of the word/communion) regardless of the day if you get married if you have it in the theater.
Again, I am no expert! This is just my understanding of the rules which could be completely off 🙂
I hope everything ends up working out! Our Catholic Ceremony ended up being our favorite part of the day
Post # 16
Ok ladies so I decided to have my mass on a Saturday and completly get rid of the theater for my wedding. RumbleBee I definetly agree with you! My catholic church is very important to me. I was still planning on having it but on a different date and very intimate with only my closest friends and family. So now I will be having it in one of my soon-to-be sister-in-laws backyard. I would need to cut the guest list a little and just hope neighors in the area don’t complain about the noise/ music.
Thanks so much Bee’s!!!