Post # 1
My fiance and I are Jewish, and therefore cannot get married on a Saturday. Currently our wedding is planned for a Sunday. We always planned on having an afternoon wedding, to make it easier for our out-of-town guests to get back in time for work on Monday. However, we have just fallen in love with a venue that will not let us start our wedding (ceremony) until 4pm. We can only do the ceremony there, so it’s not like we could have our ceremony elsewhere and have our reception at 4pm. I am concerned that this will pose an additional hardship on some of our guests, and that many people will resent having to take Monday off of work to come to our wedding. However, my fiance and I love this place and want very badly to be married there.
Do you think it’s reasonable to ask that of my guests? What would you do?
Post # 3
They may not be thrilled with it, but they will go. If you are close enough with them, they will do their best to be there. If they can’, just dont hold it against them.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
What if you changed your date to a Sunday where the Monday is a holiday? We had a Sunday evening wedding on Columbus Day weekend. Since most of our guests had off the next day, it was no big deal.
Post # 5
It’s certainly resonable, just remember that while guests are happy to attend, some of them will be leaving a little earlier in order to get ready for their week.
Post # 6
@lovekiss: that would definitely be ideal, unfortunately my fiance will be in school starting in september, so we really would like a summer wedding, and this is the only possible day for our officiants (who are very important to us).
Post # 7
It may just mean you get a few less attendees then you would have for a saturday wedding. There is nothing wrong with a sunday wedding, nor one going on till later evening. They have the choice to stay for the full evening or not.
Regardless the Out of Town guests will need time off work one way or the other, I wouldn’t worry so much.
Post # 8
I am Jewish and have been to a ton of weddings on Sunday. Guest just expect to have to take Monday off. It’s really not a big deal.
I thought I would avoid this stituation by having my wedding on a Saturday, but guest are still having to take off Friday to get in town for my rehersal dinner.
Post # 9
I’m Jewish and have the same sitution – my good friends are taking the day off. I’m starting my wedding at 5:30 and that still doesn’t bother me – even on a Saturday night, guests only stay until about midnight or twelve thirty anyways. I think it will be fine! 🙂
Post # 10
I’m having mine on Memorial Day Sunday, but I seriously considered another Sunday and I spoke to my close friends from across the country and they all said that they’d still come. A few said maybe not their husbands. I have been to several Sunday weddings and taken the day off because I love my friends and turned it into a trip. Some people will drink less (cheaper for you!) and some may not come. But all in all, not a big deal – do it!
Post # 11
Guests will come regardless of the day if they truly want to come and can make the trip…they won’t resent you. my wedding is on Sunday and in the evening, reception from 6-10. I anticipate some guests will leave early but that is fine with me. I don’t think it;s asking too much at all… they will come and hav fun. Many might even take the Monday off.
Post # 12
Guests will come regardless of the day if they truly want to come and can make the trip…they won’t resent you. my wedding is on Sunday and in the evening, reception from 6-10. I anticipate some guests will leave early but that is fine with me. I don’t think it’s asking too much at all… they will come and have fun. Many might even take the Monday off.
Post # 12
ktana: I’m confused by this. Im
jewish and having a Jewish ceramony and getting married on a Saturday night. All jewish weddings ive been to are. You just have to wait until sundown.
Post # 13
If I was invited yo a Sunday night wedding, I’d take the Monday off of work if I were close to the person. If it was someone that I wasn’t as close with, I’d probably just leave earlier to prepare for work. All in all, most people will be happy to work around it, you just may have to prepare for a few who can’t.
Post # 14
b143: not OP and this thread is 3 years old so I doubt she’ll respond but you’re right, most rabbis will only do weddings of its not on Shabbat so you can wait til sundown on Saturday. ThIs isn’t really an option in the longer days of the summer though unless you want to wait to start your wedding until 9 PM.