Post # 1
My wedding will be on a Sunday night ( 5PM reception ) and I was wondering if any of you had a wedding or has attended a Sunday wedding. My hall wouldn’t book us on a Saturday night because my guest list is only 130 and we figured that most people will miss ( since we are also inviting co-workers) the wedding if we do it on a Friday.
To those who have attended or have had their weddings on a Sunday, what advice can you give? I’m a little concerned that people will have to leave early for there is work the next day. I would book a hotel for those who live far but I really can’t afford to do this for everyone.
Any input would be appreciated.
Post # 3
I attended a Sunday afternoon wedding this summer (started at 4pm with ceremony) and most people left right after dinner, I’d estimate around 7:30pm-8:00pm. Not sure what can be done since most folks don’t really want to "party" with work the next day.
The best thing to do is maximize the time you have with your guests like taking your photos before the ceremony and just generally starting things on time.
Post # 4
I just got back from a Sunday wedding this weekend. It was great, but we did opt to leave earlier than usual. And our whole table left before we did. Early trains, flights back the next morning. My FI had to get to work by noon on Monday (yesterday). It’s a little more difficult for the guests, but those who want to will come.
Post # 5
We had a Sunday wedding and only a few people had to leave early. Almost everyone took at least Monday morning off (although a few did leave at 6am), which was easier for them since most didn’t arrive until Saturday.
However, we took the opportunity to have a 3-day affair– fancy dinner with just the families on Friday night, spa/friends/lunch/frisbee golf during the day on Saturday, big casual party on Saturday night and the rehearsal Sunday morning and ceremony/reception Sunday night. It was a wonderful weekend and I think our families appreciated being able to spend so much time together. Oh, and everyone stayed in the same hotel, so socializing was very easy.
Post # 6
My sister’s wedding is October 7th…a Sunday night! The next day is actually Columbus Day and our families are full of teachers, so many of them get the next day off. Anyone who doesn’t is taking the day off work because the wedding will start at 3 and have the reception from 5-12 with full of dancing and drinking, etc. which I think is a little less atypical for a Sunday night affair. She has very few out of town guests, though, so a couple of my uncles will be going back to work the next day even after a late-night of wedding celebrating. She’s in the Chicago area, which is a bit pricey (at least compared to my downstate IL wedding) but having it on a Sunday night is really decreasing the price.
All that said, her RSVPs are due back this Friday, though, and she’s been disappointed with the number of declines. They were expecting about 240 (of almost entirely family) but their number is around 150 right now with only about 17 RSVP cards still out. She’s thinking she’ll probably end up inviting some of her work friends she wasn’t able to invite before. I imagine the Sunday night date probably has something to do with the low guest count, but who knows!
One thing to think about as far as booking hotels…instead of actually booking hotels for out-of-towners, why don’t you try and get a block of rooms reserved? A good hotel contract should never make you liable for any that aren’t reserved, and they’ll usually give you a discount if you’re promising a decent sized number of rooms to be booked. Good luck!
Post # 7
We’re planning a Sunday wedding because it’s much cheaper. It will also be on a holiday weekend, so I’m hoping that it will be a big party weekend. I’d start the ceremony as early as you can. We didn’t stay at my friend’s wedding to see the couple off, but many people did stay until 9. And it was the people who were really close with the couple. So even if people leave, it’s probably not going to be the people you want to be there most.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2007 - Radisson Hotel
I recently went to a Sunday day/evening wedding, and it was just awful. Of course, this is because the couple chose a location 1-2 hours away from EVERYONE. No one lived nearby, the couple just really liked the site.
Most people couldn’t really enjoy themselves due to the time, as most of us had work the next morning, and we already knew we had a long drive back. For us, there was no way we could take Monday off, either.
I think things would have gone better had it been local, though. And if they didn’t take their sweet time getting back after the hours of pictures after the ceremony!
Post # 9
I just wanted to chime in and say that if people don’t come or have to leave early, it’s not a reflection on how much they care about you. Many people don’t have that much vacation time or have work responsibilites. I don’t think it’s fair to generalize like that.
Post # 10
I second what chrissie says, the time people stay at your reception doesn’t equate to how much they care.
I have been to several Sunday night weddings, most of them Jewish. Most of the guests stayed for the full night! I just went to one Sunday wedding a few weekends ago and the party only stopped because the couple had only booked the room till midnight.
Post # 11
My wedding will be on a Sunday too. I’m not really sweating it, because I figure out of town people would take a day or two off no matter what day it’s on. Local people I’m not so sure – but I’m just not worried about it.
Post # 12
I am getting married on Sunday, October 7th as well. I purposely picked it because of Columbus Day weekend with the hope of being able to try to accommodate the half of the guest list travelling from the East to the West coast (and the teachers in the house). Sunday was largely a budgetary reason (I’d never have been able to afford the number of people or the venue for Saturday and the venue/people was more important to me than the day) although since we knew no matter what we were doing that half of our list was travelling we decided to make it a bit of a destination (Palm Springs) – with the hopes of people being able to take time to enjoy themselves. We will lose a few folks earlier that evening, but almost everyone is making the effort for the entire weekend.Â We just don’t live in a world anymore that is contained in geographic area – unless you are marrying your high school sweetheart in your hometown. Add a few years and careers and a transplant to another coast and you’ve got a cocktail for a big old wedding headache. The best you can do is make decisions for yourself that make sense and then hope that the people that really love you will make the effort in the way that is best for them as well.
Post # 13
We are getting married on Sunday 10/14/07, and our ceremony doesn’t even start until 6:15pm. We are doing pictures before the ceremony, and so far we haven’t received a single no on our RSVPs… Which is surprising. I’ve been told that the always anticipated Raiders/Chargers game (we live in San Diego) is on that Sunday, Yet it appears that all of the ‘wives’ must have RSVP’d without mentioning this to their husbands.
Most of our local family lives about an hour away, so a ton of people have booked their hotels near our venue already 🙂 With all of the money we saved going for Sunday, we were able to make it an open bar affair.
Post # 14
We were having an early Sunday afternoon wedding until our venue asked us to change the time (to 3 PM, but that felt odd to me, so we opted for 4 PM). I know this will present some issues for some folks, but I don’t really know what to do about it.
Post # 15
My friend is getting married this weekend on a Sunday. Its going to be a great time, and the party will go into the wee hours. I love her and I am going and (given that its several hours away) am staying overnight so fi and I are missing work Monday.
We are happy to do it – but fi doesn’t get paid for days he doesn’t work, so its quite the chunk of change to be attending.
My feelings about Sunday weddings are like the destination weddings, you have to think about whether you saving a bunch of money by having the reception on Sunday is possibly at the expense of your guests having to pay more to attend. Sometimes it won’t make a difference to the majority of your guests and sometimes it will.
Post # 16
We attended a Sunday wedding this past summer for my fiance’s cousin. It was a 6 hour drive for us, and we did not plan on taking off work the next day, since we were trying to save vacation days for our honeymoon. Prior to the wedding, I did complain a lot about the fact that it was on a Sunday, as it would have been easier on all of us family members that were traveling from out of town. That said, most everyone else in attendence was local, so they didn’t face the same challenges that we did.
People left early from the reception (by 8, it seemed that at least half the people had left)- and this is one of the realities of a Sunday evening wedding. We spent a long time waiting around for their first dance- instead of a receiving line, they went around to each table, which took close to 2 hours. Only after they were done did they open up the dance floor. Being family, we couldn’t leave until after that and other events were completed, so we left several hours later than planned (for our 6 our drive back home) and called in sick the next day (no vacation time).
One thing they did do that I liked was cutting the cake before dinner, so it was served as people were finishing the meal. I would make sure that any activities you may be doing (i.e. first dance, bouquet toss, cake cutting) are done very early in the evening, so that people who need to leave (and there will be some) don’t feel obligated to wait around for a certain event to occur.