Post # 1
I was wondering how people feel about Sunday weddings? We’re looking into dates right now, and I thought a Sunday wedding would be a good idea because many of my friends are in town that weekend for a conference that ends Saturday around noon so they would have a break before the wedding. But one of my friends is adamantly against it, saying that it will be very inconvient for the out of town guests and people who would have to miss work on Monday.
What do you guys think? I plan on a afternoon wedding followed by a banquet around 6-7pm, and probably an after party with the younger friends at a hotel room after? Your input is appreciated!
Post # 3
I think Sundays are great for weddings!
I have booked my 2008 wedding for a Sunday for several reasons:
1. I basically have my pick of vendors
2. Some vendors offer discounts for "off-days", such as Sunday
3. Timing for my OOT guests.
While I have booked my wedding on a Sunday, it is during a long weekend. Therefore, my guests have Monday off if they need to recuperate or travel back home.
Post # 4
I personally prefer Saturday weddings so I don’t have to worry about work the next day. Nevertheless, I’ve always enjoyed myself at Sunday weddings because I’m happy to be there for the couple. I don’t think any less of the couple or the wedding because of the date. You should do what works for you. You can’t please everyone.
Post # 5
We’re having a Sunday wedding (a lot of Jewish weddings are on Sundays because they have to start so late on Saturdays). We’re starting early so the party will be over at 4:00. That way, people can still catch flights home and work on Monday. I know that it seems people won’t party and dance as much during the day, but I’ve been to quite a few daytime weddings and people are still always having a good time. Also, I have gotten quite a few discounts for having a Sunday wedding. I say do what works for you. Good luck.
Post # 6
I’ve been to a lot of Sunday weddings this past year and they’ve all be quite mellow compared to the Saturday weddings but we still have fun regardless because we are there for our friends. I’ve also appreciated Sunday weddings that are followed by a Monday holiday especially when I’ve had to travel. There are certainly a lot of breaks that you get having your wedding on a "not so peak" day.
Good luck with your planning!
Post # 7
I’m having a Sunday wedding – pretty much the same timing as yours. I’m not too worried about the working-next-day thing. Everyone who is close to me (good friends, family, etc) will probably take Monday off (at least I hope they will!) so they can party late into the night.
Post # 8
Most of the time your OOT guests have to take off work Friday for a Saturday wedding anyway, I don’t see that much of a difference if that’s her concern.
Post # 9
I’m having a Sunday wedding as well. Like some others have said… OOT guests usually have to take one day off from work, so it’s either a Fri or a Mon; all of our closest (in-town) friends and family are more than ok with taking Monday off; a Sunday wedding has made vendor availability 100 times easier; I get to have my rehearsal and rehearsal dinner on a Saturday. For a Sunday wedding, the rehearsal at a chuch can sometimes be in the middle of the week which means that some people may not be able to attend.
Yes, there’ll be some people who won’t like the idea, but you can’t please everyone even if you do have a Sat wedding. Bes of luck!
Post # 10
If you have other options, I would definitely pick Saturday or even Friday night over a Sunday wedding (unless the Monday is a holiday). A lot of places that do a Saturday afternoon wedding and a Saturday evening wedding give discounts for Saturday afternoons, and, while you do run the risk of people being late because of work, Friday nights I think are also preferable to Sunday (again, a lot of place give discounts for Friday as well). Monday is a tough day to ask people to take off work- much easier for most people take off Friday. Plus you run the risk of people being hung over from Saturday. I know most of my friends look at Sunday as a day to go to the gym/run errands- not party. With that being said- it is your wedding and do what you want. Guests can work it out. I hope I don’t upset any of the Sunday weddings- just another opinion!
Post # 11
I am also having a Sunday wedding next year, but not many of my guests will be OOTers. For me, it is more convenient than a Friday wedding because of the traffic situation in LA (horrible!). Also, my friends who party, party Thursday-Sunday so it is still considered the weekend! 🙂 I don’t know if this helps, but just thought I would put in my two cents. Having a Saturday wedding at my venue was just impossible due to pricing. Friday would have been even more inexpensive than a Sunday, but like I said, I wouldn’t want my guests to drive through LA traffic on a Friday. So, I had to weigh in my In-Town guests vs. my 5 or so OOTers and it just made more sense. Plus, if people are flying in for my wedding, I think they are close enough to me to not mind taking a Monday off, if necessary. I know I wouldn’t mind for their weddings! 🙂
Post # 12
Honestly, as an in-town guest, I really prefer non-Sunday weddings if you are having a night reception. Unless it is a huge budget issue, I’d do Saturday or even Friday instead. Expect a lot of people to leave early or not be so much in the party mood (at least this is applicable to my friends and I) because there is work and school loomoing over our heads. We have to get home to prepare for the next day or to sleep early, etc…
I am ALL for having a Sunday morning and afternoon wedding, though! Those are fun. 🙂
Post # 13
I’m having a Sunday wedding as well and yes, it did make me think for a while how people would feel about our day and I was worried about some of them leaving early. As I spoke with other people, I finally realized that I’m only inviting those who really mean to me and my fiance. I personally believe that if someone complains about going to a Sunday wedding because of inconvenience, then those people are not your real friends. Being invited to a wedding is an honor and if someone invites me to even a MONDAY or TUESDAY wedding, that shouldn’t be an issue. I will go whole-heartedly and will support the couple with their marriage. This day shouldn’t be about ME but the couple getting married. =)
Post # 14
If you are having a Sunday wedding, you can expect that a lot of out of town guests will not be able to make it. It is quite inconvenient – what are these out of town guests supposed to do when they come in on Saturday? They would have to take extra days off since they surely will not be able to arrive home in time to work on Monday. Also if you are inviting people with kids, they would have to arrange for a sitter or make arrangements with their school as well.
Post # 15
Sorry, I think Sunday weddings are selfish. Very inconvenient for guests, in my opinion.
Post # 16
If you want to have a wedding on a Sunday, do it. As someone said before, we’re Jewish and we’re having our wedding the day before Labor Day. We did that because half our guests are Christian and have never been to a full-blown wedding on a Sunday before. Our Jewish guests consider this completely normal and enjoy a big prenuptial dinner the night before on Saturday. So if you’re worried about what they would do on a Saturday, you’d probably be expected to have a bigger dinner and invite all the OOT guests who are already there, or have a welcome party.
Another option would be to have a morning wedding with an after-party in the evening for in-town and super-close friends. I think Sunday brunch receptions are fun, especially once the mimosas and bloody marys start flowing.
It’s absurd to think you’re selfish for wanting to get married on whatever day you want. If your guests want to be there, they will be.