(Closed) Sunset Dinner Cruise night before wedding.. HELP w/ WORDING

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

we invite you to wear white/khaki attire  

Post # 5
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I see the “we invite you to wear” as more of a requirement then a suggestion but I don’t think it’s that big of a deal.  It’s really not much different than requesting Black Tie. You can request anything you want but it never means someone HAS to do it.  The only thing I’d find out of the ordinary is that you aren’t requesting it for the wedding but for a pre-wedding event.  All that being said, at the end of the day write what you want – people will wear what they want anyways!

Post # 6
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If its optional then who cares?

The cruise sounds like a blast!!

Post # 8
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Since it’s the day before the wedding, and not the wedding itself, recommending/suggesting a wardrobe is a little overreaching to many folks. It’d be different if you were recommending long sleeves because it can get buggy at night, but since it’s just for a photo op, you might want to let it go. If you name a color/theme, there are definitely some guests who will go buy those items, so you need to weigh your photo op wants against the potential costs to the guests. Perhaps you could either broaden the “look” (I.e. Welcome all pastels) so that more people would be likely to already own something suitable (like many, I dont own a single white or khaki item, nor do any of my friends, but I do own several light blue/light green items), or hand-pick a few folks who you know already have the wardrobe, and use them to “frame” the photo with the rest of the guests dressing however they want.

Post # 11
8360 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Could you buy some white tees for everyone to slip on for the photo? I hate being told to wear something specific but in the end will feel guilted into going out and buying whatever is needed which in this case would be a white top and khakis two things I don’t have (the only white clothing I own is my wedding dress!). I would also not want to turn up and be the only party pooper not in proper colours!

At the end of the day I know it seems really important now that everyone co-ordinates but in 5 or 10 years will it be important? Or will the photo full of friends and family dressed in whatever be important enough!

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