Post # 1
I just need to vent.
So I have had a handful of people tell me that they can’t come to the wedding, 4 days before the wedding. The first three people that cancelled, it worked out bc three people RSVP’d yes last minute. So, it balanced out.
I got a text yesterday from a friend who can’t come bc her sister can no longer watch her kids. Today I get text from another friend whose husband can’t get off work. I don’t want to sound like a bitch, but I sent you a save the date in February, that gave you about 7 months to get the day off.
I mean I know that things happen, but I mean really, its two days before the wedding. Now I am starting to worry what other people will just NOT show up.
Post # 3
Life happens. Just focus on your day, enjoy yourself, and celebrate with the guests who made it a priority to attend.
Post # 4
@OP – I’m sorry that people are canceling last minute, but just try to enjoy your day with those who are thrilled to be there for you on your special day 🙂
Post # 5
Are there any people who have (with no etiquette SMH) ask if they were invited? We have had quite a few cancel and we are just notifying the people, who knew we had space limitation, that they can come now.
Post # 6
@Daizy914: It IS annoying when people cancel last minute. It can also be costly.
I think most of us can understand when emergencies or crises arise, but if that fellow knew he didn’t have the day off he should have notified you earlier so you could notify the caterer before your deadline date. There are people who have their work schedules changed at the last minute, so you may not have the full picture.
Have a wonderful wedding despite these annoyances.
Post # 7
It is so aggravating! I had two co-workers plus their dates cancel on me the day before. Thanks a lot! I already paid for you ($200/person), made a seating chart, and gave the venue my place cards!
Post # 8
I know that there are emergencies, and I would understand. And I know that her husband would have been able to get off work if he had applied to get off in the right amount of time. I also know that they have a lot of marital issues and that he may have pulled “I can’t get off work” to avoid spending the day with her. It sucks to say that, but its the truth. I am just annoyed bc we spent $160 per person, money that cannot be refunded at this point. She is bringing her sister in place of him, but I don’t have time to change her place card that has been printed. The other person cancelling bc she has no one to watch her kids, I get it, it sucks. Shit happens. I am just upset bc I wish I knew so I save a few hundred dollars.
Once the day comes, these people won’t be a thought in my mind. But I just needed to vent my frustrations!!! Thank you for listening!!! LoL
Post # 9
I’m with you! It sucks. But there’s nothing much to do about it and it’s not worth getting upset over. I had 2 people cancel the day before and then 6 people no-show on the day of with no notice. Grrrrr. But Oh well.
Post # 10
@Daizy914: Ah. So it’s not so much a guest issue as a money issue. I get it. I’d be pissed to waste that much money too. I believe most weddings (and events for that matter) generally do have a percentage of folks who don’t show up. It does suck and it is inconsiderate. But people can be douche canoes sometimes.
Post # 11
Yeah, this is sucky but so, so common and normal. Nothing left to do but let it go and get excited about your wedding!!!
Post # 12
@MrsPanda99: yea I mean, weddings where I live are expensive and people are well aware of that.
I learned that weddings bring out the best and worst in people. Sad, but true.