(Closed) super awkward dinner that I’m not looking forward to

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would tell her that you would prefer it to just be you and her so you can catch up

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Can you just reply saying, “I would rather have dinner just the two of this time, we have so much to catch up on!”

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

“No, it is not OK that [ex-friend] comes.”  Tell your friend that you’ve intentionally put distance between yourself and ex-friend and don’t really have any interest in maintaining a friendship with her anymore.  While you wouldn’t walk out of a party just because ex-friend was there, you wanted to catch up with your friend and don’t have any interest in rekindling a closer friendship with ex-friend.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think it shouldn’t have to be a super awkward dinner and if you are thinking thats the case, you should probably just cancel because what are you really going to get out of it? I agree with PPs in that its totally ok to say that you would rather the dinner be just the two of you because you have other things to focus on. Good luck!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

yeah I would not agree to have dinner with both of them, I would say no sorry I would like it to be just us two

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you should just not show up. 😉

(well, only if you want that friendship to be over, obviously, but if she is keeping such toxic company, and doesn’t otherwise seem to value YOUR friendship, then perhaps that isn’t such a bad idea!)

Post # 10
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Honey bee

@Heatherloveskenny: Youre a better person than me. I probably wouldn’t care to have dinner with either of them. The friend that RSVPed yes, but didnt show up…doesn’t sound like much of a friend to me. And it sounds like she is setting you up to be attached by the ex friend.

Too much drama for me!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yeah, it kinda seems like the ex-friend wants to confront you, but not one on one…? I wouldn’t go with the both of them, especially if you know there will be drama and you are trying to separate yourself. Reschedule with your friend for a different day and say that you want it to be just the two of you!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Bostongrl25:yeah, that’s kinda what i’m thinking…

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