(Closed) Super awkward money moment with dad

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
14338 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Geez, sucks that your mom went ahead and did that.  But I would just call him back and tell him that you had only talked about your mom helping out with half, and did not in any way shape or form ask her to ask him for you and you in fact told her NOT to since you wanted to talk to him yourself.  Apologize for the misunderstanding and have a real talk with him about the miscommunication and then discuess any money he can or cannot contribute… see where it goes from there.

Post # 4
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ummm I think he has it the other way around. It wasn’t your job to ask him for money. If parents want to contribute they should call you/sit you down and tell you how much they want to contribute.

I was pretty hurt that DH’s parents only talked to him about money and not me.

Post # 5
3167 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@pinkshoes: i agree.

OP, apologize to your dad for the misunderstanding and tell him your mom was out of line and talking out of her ass. tell him what you were hoping for and let him know that you certainly don’t expect it, it’s just an opportunity to contribute if he feels like it.

Post # 6
1506 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Aw that’s super awkward. I’d probably call him when I got out of work and explain what happened.

Post # 7
425 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Its ok.. I know how that might make you feel.. Your dad sounds sad- just like others said, call him up and apologize and then thank him properly and explain to him how you couldnt show him how grateful you were at work since you were at work. Maybe you can try to meet him up during the weekend over lunch or something and talk things out? explain to him how great it would be if you had some financial help.

Post # 8
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

I would call back when you have time and explain that you briefly mentioned it to your mom and specifically asked her not to say anything as you wanted to wait until you had more details/concrete cost before saying anything.Tell him you’re sorry that about the miscommunication and that you are very grateful for anything he is able to contribute.

Then call your mom and ask that she kindly refrain from passing along information that you asked or not to.

Or better yet, keep her on a need-to-know basis.

Post # 9
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yep, call, explain, apologize, and properly thank him.

and whether or not you “believe” in astrology, two days ago was the beginning of Mercury retrograde, when the planet appears to travel backwards. Since Mercury rules communication, this is when things go awry: misunderstandings, miscommunications, etc.

I’ve been dealing with this type of things for the past couple of days too, so just letting you know!

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