Super awkward situation. What would you have done?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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212 posts
Helper bee

@March1stBride:  Gosh, that does sound super awkward!I can’t imagine what that woman was thinking, I feel bad for her daughter – for having to put up with that for her whole life and the embarassment of having to apologize to you. I think you handled it as graciously as possible, though!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think you handled it correctly. The person you haven’t talked to in 7 years and expects to be invited to your wedding is the one who is a touch out of line.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

You didn’t do anything wrong.  It sounds like your old friend’s mom is a couple of bananas short of a bunch.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@March1stBride:  I think you handled it pretty well. And I think that the girl probably just didn’t want you to feel like you had to or guilty and just overexplained herself (I do this too when I feel flustered). Something about weddings brings the crazy out of all of us (some more so than others)

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@March1stBride:  I think you handled it beautifully.  And I’m sorry you had to deal with that, especially in public!  WOW!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@March1stBride:  Maybe she’s full swing into menopause or something lol cause that isn’t normal behaviour…

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Woman sounds likes a whack.  I wouldn’t have handled it any differently. You did nothing wrong.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@March1stBride:  sounds like there are some mental issues there. You handled it perfectly. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@March1stBride:  OMG no you were completely in the right here! I was waiting to read that you caved, and I’m SO GLAD you didn’t! i would have just been like 0.0 ummmmm i’m sorry! and skittered away.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

@March1stBride:  I think you handled the situation perfectly. Honestly I don’t know what else you could have said. She was emotional for some reasons we might not know, it’s sad and awkward but you told her what needed to be told. 

Post # 13
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490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You definitely handled it correctly – it’s not your fault other people have issues with a capital “I”.

It absolutley baffles me when people you haven’t spoken to in ages expect a wedding invitation.  It’s so strange!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I think you handled it graciously! And although unnecessary, I also think it was sweet of her daughter to call you and explain the situation and try to make you feel less crappy about the situation. Not that you have ANY reason to feel guilty, it’s just easy to feel bad in situations like that. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Hello, fellow March 1st bride!

HERE’S THE DEAL.

Your guest list is set, you have 12 WEEKS until you get hitched (woo!) and this lady is crazy enough to cry like a small child in public when she doesn’t get her way.

There is NO WAY I’d feel guilty about not inviting her to the wedding!!
Imagine how she’d act if she didn’t get her way at your wedding!!
Like if everyone at all the cannolis before she got to the table, Waaaaaah!

We capped our guest list a while ago, even if someone asks we say “Sorry, it’s a small wedding (it’s not, really) we can’t fit any more people.” We don’t go out of the way to apologize, and I don’t feel bad about it because I hate it when people invite themselves places.

Honestly, in your shoes, I’d keep this woman (and her daughter) waaay out of my life and beeswax (i.e. unfriend on Facebook, block emails, rename phone #’s as “do not pick up” in my cell or block them)

You did the right thing – don’t feel bad!
Just try and laugh about it, because what the what?

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

@March1stBride:  You were fine.

It sounds like this person has mental health issues, which the daughter is aware of. 

Still sucks you had to deal with this though.

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