Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids called me tonight and let me in on a little secret – she’s pregnant! I am SOOOOO happy for her and her husband. It totally wasn’t planned, but they’re thrilled and so am I. They have both been extremely close friends – and even roomates at one time – for years.
Here’s the kicker. She’s due two weeks after our wedding. And her husband is also an usher. I also know that another bridesmaid of mine and her hubby have not been trying not to get pregnant for awhile now and I am slightly fearful that she might actually be pregnant and end up being due around the same time.
Again – let me emphasize, I am SOOO happy for my friend and her husband and if my other bridesmaid is preggers as well, I will be beyond thrilled for them as well. I am just disappointed that there is a chance they won’t be able to be there on our wedding day and I feel guilty for feeling that way. It’s not even the whole picture thing or even sides of the bridal party or whatever – it’s just the fact that they might not be able to be there that makes me sad. I am not angry or upset in that way at all.
Post # 3
We had OUR BEST FRIENDS…a couple tell us they are getting divorced 3 months in to wedding planning. Of course they were in the wedding party.
Not only has it changed out friendship, but our wedding party is short two very valuable people. (their choice not ours unfortunately)
Have you talked to your friends to see what they are open to? If she is still willing/able to attend you could offer a chair for the ceremony. Maybe tell her you’re ok if she can’t stay for the reception (since thats a VERY long day).
Post # 4
@kermie: I’m sorry for your situation as well! I’ve been through that with some friends (not with the wedding thankfully) and it’s tough.
I have talked to her and she has already discussed most of this with her doctor already. My friend lives about 3 1/2 hours away and the dr. said while they normally don’t recommend traveling more than 2 hours at 36 weeks, if she prepares for it and is close to a good hospital (which she will be) she will be fine. She still REALLY wants to be in the wedding and be there with us, which I totally appreciate. The chair idea during the ceremony is a good idea though! Now I am trying to think of other ways to make the day easier on her…
We also discussed the dress situation – the dresses are from David’s and each girl gets to chose the style they want, so I think she is going to wait until it gets closer and buy something off the rack rather than mess with altering a dress to fit an ever growing belly. 🙂
I just REALLY hope she can make the wedding, just because I really want her there with us… She has been such a huge, important part of my life, I can’t imagine her not being there that day!