- 3 years ago
First of all hi to everyone, this is my first post. I am really desperate and can’t talk to anyone about this.
I am supposed to get married in the first week of September. My fiance is a wonderful man and we’ve been together for 2 and a half years. He is from another country and I moved there to be with him 2 years ago (we met there). We had our ups and downs and we fought for our relationship a lot (his family was very much against it, and mine is also not too happy about the whole deal). The problem for our families are the cultural differences, as his is a Muslim country, and I am from Scandinavia.
Every time I go home my friends and family have been suspicious about the whole deal as they are afraid of the mentality of people in his country compared to the liberal mindset I have. I am 32 years old and have traveled a lot, and I believe things would be ok for us in future, because my DF and I get along great.
However, recently I started worrying about the political situation in his country, and started fearing the possible overwhelming involvement from the inlaws. Also, I got this almost suffocating feeling that I will be stuck to that city and that I won’t have any real friends (I have a few, which are mostly also my DFs friends, but I do miss my support network). I also feel guilty for being so far from my family and friends at home, because now it’s gonna be permanent, as before I always had the chance to easily go back.
In short, I am worried too much about the circumstances. This is not at all about the relationship between my DF and me.
Also, my parents are divorced and retired and not in a good physical condition to travel. Only my mom would be able to attend the wedding. My sister is expecting a baby in 2 months and also cannot travel. I will be so lonely without my family at the wedding. It just makes everything feel like this world of strangers that is my DFs relatives and friends will engulf me. I almost don’t even want to go through the whole thing.
I talked to my DF and he says everything will be fine, we will have dinner for my family and friends back in Sweden a week after the wedding, but I am just so sad, I feel as if it is not even my wedding. I really don’t know what to do. 🙁