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Hi hive I am a regular poster but I have something serious I need some support with. I just found out I am pregnant on Saturday I do not plan on keeping so please do not try to tell me what I am doing is wrong etc... I am about 6 weeks pregnant not ready to raise a child at all. I am getting married later on this year, still in school, starting a business and moving all within this and next year. If you have ever gone through this please feel free to leave a comment or if you just have words of encourgement feel free to also leave a comment.
I haven't gone through this but just wanted to tell you to hang in there! I'm sure it's a difficult time for you and hope you have support from those close to you. It sounds like you're confident in your decision so try not to worry too much about any judgements people will pass.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I've personally never dealt with this but I have friends that have and I know it's tough. Only you can make the best decision for you and it seems like you've made it. It will no doubt be hard but hopefully in time everything will get back to normal. Good luck!
I am so sorry you are going through this.
Does your FI know? Hopefully he can be one of your number one supporters. If not, is there any friend or family member who can go with you?
Don't feel guilty. You are doing what is right for you. We are here for you.
*hug*
I fully support your decision. Only you know what is best for you. Take care of yourself and know that there are supportive people who are thinking of you.
My FI is very supportive! I love him so much, on saturday we both did not know how to act but I actually feel like this making us closer. Thank you so much for your support :)
Since you are certain you don't want to keep it (or go through adoption) then try and get about getting the RU 486 pill. It can avoid surgical abortion. If you need someone to talk to about it- PM me.
Been there. It can be a tough decision, or a really really easy one. Either way, it helps to have support - especially from your partner and/or family and/or a close friend.
If I might give one piece of advice: choose who you tell carefully and don't involve too many people, at least until after the procedure.
@armychica06: That is what I am hoping to be able to do. Planned Parenthood doesnt open till 12:30 today so right at that time I will call to make the appointment.
Be prepared for the journey it might take to heal - Try and surround yourself with only people who will support you, and don't have any expectations. I've never been in this situation, but I do know that a lot of people will go through a period of mourning.
We are here for you if you need any support!
Good luck! Know that you're making the best choice for you and your family at this moment in time. And you're far from alone - abortion is the most common surgical procedure in the U.S. There are probably lots of women you know who have had one, even if they haven't told anyone.
Also know that it's ok to feel a range of emotions - anything from grief to relief. All of those are normal and ok.
I think it's really strong and wise of you to realize that you cannot bring a child into the world at this time. I think so many women are so against the choice you made, and they end up bringing a baby into the world when they, their family/support systems, and their lives are not ready for a child yet. I hope that if I were in your shoes, I would have your strength and clarity. Best of luck and speedy recovery (if you're not feeling well afterwards) to you!
Thank you so much! I want to be able to provide fully for a child. I dont want to have to work 3 jobs or have to turn to the government for help with my child the one that I "chose" to bring into this world. at 23 years old I do not feel mature/responsible enough to raise a child. My parents raised me to be free thinking and strong and to not be a follower I feel that I am living up to my values by making this decision
I have never been through this, however had a scare in college and decided that I too would end it. It will be tough but you have an amazing supportive man by your side and you also have us bees. It is okay to feel torn up about it, it is a big decision. However it is the right decision for you and thats all that matters. It will all be okay in the end!
@miss. eire: Thank you so much, and I am glad you didnt have to go through with it.
I've never been through it, but I've watched 2 of my friends go through it. I had a scare one time during my freshman year of college and I also made the decision that I would end it. I didn't have my then boyfriend's support so it's really great that your FH is supportive of you. A good support system is key. I wish you the best of luck and a quick and easy recovery!
@FeelingTerrible: I know lots of ladies have already stated their support for you, but I just want to be another voice to help you get through this. Kudos to you for sticking up for yourself and what will someday be your child- only you and your FI know how able you are to raise a child, and it's okay to say that this is not the time. You've got my support 100%- and don't let anyone try to convince you otherwise!
EDIT: Good luck girl- please let us know if there's anything we can do for you! (I'm not really sure what, but we can at least just be here to listen)
@breezybri19: Thank you very much! This is why I love the Bee! Everyone is usually very supportive! <3 you girls!
Abortion is something I have gone through - and come out the other side grateful that I had the choice, and happy that I made it. I was lucky and was able to do the pill - they only let you do that up to 9 weeks (9 weeks from your last menstrual period) - depending on how quickly you can get a doctor to see you, you may or may not be in that window. Remember that PP isn't the only place - regular OB/GYNs often do abortions, as well, so don't be afraid to call them if PP can't get you in quickly!
PM me if you have any questions!
I'm so glad your FI is supportive, that will really be a world of help. I know it's not an easy decision to make, but your reasons are very good ones and I commend you on having the courage to acknowledge that you are not ready to raise a child.
I will second JenniBride's caution to tell only the people you trust fully and know will be supportive, if you choose to tell anyone at all.
@mightywombat: Yes it did I have my appointment for Saturday with the pill.
@FeelingTerrible: Whew, relief. I'm so stoked for you!
We are here for you. You are being very smart and brave to make this decision. Only you know what you are ready for in your life right now. I haven't been through this but did have a scare a few years ago and had made the decision to do the same but ended up not having to. But, we are always here for you.
Thank you so much ladies! You really do not know how much this means to me to have the support of the hive during this tough time.
Im sorry you are going through this. I know that this is a tough decision expecially with everything else going on in your life right now. If your FI knows lean on eachother, I hope you have a great support system!! You will get through all of it. Best of luck!!
Great. Just take good care and be very gentle with yourself during this time. Hugs!!!!
@FeelingTerrible: make sure you find a place that will put you under during the procedure. no "twighlight" i mean ASLEEP. if you are awake it is painful. and give yourself a week off work to just heal physically and mentally. you can PM me if you want
Full support here. It is a tough experience, but you will get through it. Good luck to you!
@Sweetie Pie 21: I think she is doing the pill, but I agree with you. Twilight is bad (for me), but that is the only option here.
I support your decision 100%. no matter where you are in life, it is your body, your decision!
I was 5 weeks along when I had my abortion. if it helps, fyi, I think it's just a little bit easier (emotionally and physically) to do it when you are still really early along. I did the abortion pill (RU486) and I have to say that if I had to do it again, I would choose that method.
surround yourself with supportive people only. let yourself have lots of time off to rest, and be sure you have plenty of comfort food and favorite movies around!
HUGS!
You sound really mature and I think you made a good decision. I'm sorry you have to go through this, I feel your pain. Be strong, I hope you're surrounded by good, loving people. Good luck! HUGS!
@BackyardLoveBird: oh no, that is awful! this country makes me so mad sometimes.
There are lots of us who have admitted to having abortions in a few other threads. Please don't ever feel like you can't reach out. It sounds like you're doing what's best for you and I wish you well.
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