Supposed to start TTC next month but getting cold feet…

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
2273 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

God yes I was excited to start trying but I was terrified… Even now as I sit here waiting to see if I get a BFP or AF this week I’m still kinda scared because it is such a change, and we have already been trying 6 months so it’s not like I’m in my first TWW. My DH and I are also in our early 30s and both knew we wanted kids from a young age. I think (hope) is perfectly normal to be a little worried!

btw at the same time at I’m terrified I also can’t wait to be a mummy so I guess I’m ready 🙂 tbh only you know if you’re both ready…

Post # 4
4575 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I was def excited, but terrified that it wouldnt happen and what if it never happens.  I wasnt scare or nervous of the TTC journey, I am still terrified of what if never happens for us.  I am still waiting for my BFP and this is our 12th cycle.  I think its normal to feel like that.  It will be a big change in your life, but I see it as good wonderful and just exciting change that the two of you get to go through together 🙂

Post # 5
8007 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

What a timely post. I’m thinking about when to start TTC as well. My problem is that I don’t really have secure employment, and I don’t want to be pregnant and looking for work. But then… if I wait, I could be waiting forever… and I’m not getting any younger.

Post # 6
1101 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

We’re in our early 30s, married 3.5 years, financially stable, and I’m 31 weeks pregnant, and I still freak out every now and then about how our lives are going to change! I think it’s 100% normal to be scared of giving up the “known” for the “unknown”. 

Even this weekend I had a minor panic attack because on Friday, we just up and decided to drive to a restaurant 45 minutes away that we love on a whim and I kept thinking “we’ll never be able to do this again!”

In the end, I still think the good will outweigh the bad. Yeah, we’ll be giving up a certain amount of freedom and spontinaity, but we’ll be gaining so much more in terms of life experiences and milestones with our LO, so I just keep focusing on that. 

And, we’re still going to make a huge effort to have “us” time. We already have the first Grandparent babysitting night lined up for DH’s birthday which is 3 weeks after my due date. Having these moments to look forward to is also making the transition easier.

Post # 7
7656 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

It is super scary, but if you just kind of forget about it (which I know is hard to do) you have fun and let it happen. It gets easier, but the first time you know you are TTC is the hardest.

We just did a NTNP for a month or two, and then we actively tried and were successful. Seeing the pink line is even more terrifying!

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