Post # 1
My Fiance and I were supposed to be getting married this weekend, however we postponed our wedding ten days ago. I am not happy about the postponement, but we agreed that there are somethings that we should work on before getting married. We have been together for almost two years and got engaged after one year together. We were always a great couple until many interceding factors seemed to create on strain on our relationship after our engagement last May. What’s bizarre is that after the postponement we seem closer than ever and able to communicate better than ever (although it has only been a few days and I think he is still walking on eggshells around me).The fact the my Birthday and Valentine’s day were also this week may have something to with it. We are seeing a counselor and things are going well.
I am currently unemployed and living with my fiance in a house we bought last August. I don’t know what to do with myself this weekend. I want to crawl into a hole because I feel the wedding I always wanted was just stripped from me (as well as the trust I had in my fiance), but there are family and friends in town who want to see us regardless of the postponment. They say they are cool if we want to lay low, but I want to send the message that we are working on things and appriciate their support. I also don’t want to spend the weekend in the house wallowing in self pity.
Post # 3
girl’s weekend or just go see a movie when them and have dinner (no wedding talk though). right now you need your friends and family 🙂
Post # 4
I cancelled my (what I call now my "practice") wedding 2 months out….most of my family had to fly in for it so needless to say, they all had booked plane tickets. I ended up still going home that weekend (without my ex) and although I was a bit sad/icky feeling at first, my parents threw an impromptu BBQ at their house & we ended up having one of the most fun "family gatherings" ever. Nobody brought up the original reason we were all together for that weekend & it turned into a super fun "friends & family" reunion.
Post # 5
I agree with the other posters. Get out and do something- you will feel better than if you just stayed home. If your FI wants to come with you- that’s great. If you going to get through this, it’s important to keep living your life.
I’m sorry you’re going through this and I’ll keep you in my thoughts as you and your FI work to get back on track. Also- I commend you both for having the courage to postpone the wedding. I think it shows you are honest about your relationship and if work through this, I think you will have the skills it takes to maintain a happy marriage in the long term. Won’t it be wonderful for you both to celebrate your marriage without resevations or doubts hanging over your heads?
Good luck and I hope you post again and let us know how you make out.