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I am planning 2 weddings (DW for 30 and at-home reception for 120) in May. To complicate things I have 4 separate families planning showers etc in the next months, plus my FI and I take dance lessons on weekends, and we're in the middle of renovating our basement. I am doing everything myself with no help from any of my bridesmaids, or my mother and I feel like there is already not enough time to do everything.

My MOH is now telling me that she is planning a girls night, but won't tell me when so that I can put it into my already overbooked schedule. She says that it is rude of me to ask, but my argument is that it is rude of her to assume that I can drop everything just because she has planned something without checking if I'm available.

Am I being unreasonable to ask her to clear the date with me before inviting my family and friends to something that I may not be able to attend?

I don't think you're  being unreasonable - but maybe she's afraid it will kill the surprise.  Offer to give her 3 dates (which sounds like it might hard - but try).  That way she can "surprise" you and you can keep some sanity.

Good luck - maybe during the girl's night you can recruit some help.

My MOH is kind of scatterbrained (I mean this in the best way possible), and definitely not a planner, so I'm thinking that she may not be telling me when because she hasn't actually planned anything, and doesn't want to commit to a date.

Thanks for the advice girls! I appreciate it. I think I will try to find a couple of dates for her to choose from. I think she needs a kick in the butt too if she's actually going to plan anything.