Surprise Halloween Wedding??

posted 3 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Should we have a Halloween Wedding?
    Yes and surprise your guests! : (30 votes)
    32 %
    Yes but let your guests know there will be a "surprise" : (34 votes)
    37 %
    Yes but let the guests know it will be a wedding : (10 votes)
    11 %
    No, sounds tacky : (19 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    772 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @FutureDrAtkins:  I think this is an awesome idea! The only hitch is that people might not know to go out of their way to be there. Maybe you should hint to people who rsvp no.

    Post # 4
    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @FutureDrAtkins:  I’d let my close family members know, and let other guests know that there will be a surprise. Even though it won’t be a wedding in the traditional sense, don’t be surprised that when you do plan the real deal, some people may consider it a vow renewal of sorts, especially if they were present for the Halloween ceremony.

    Post # 5
    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @FutureDrAtkins:  I would be so excited if I had friends who did this!!  I would maybe let people know there will be a surprise.

    Post # 6
    3442 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @FutureDrAtkins:  To be honest (this might not apply to how you feel), I would rather scale back my wedding dreams & get married for the first time on my actual wedding day. Anything else is essentially just a vow renewal & reception. I wouldn’t have been happy with that for sentimental reasons.

    If I were a guest & had no idea that you guys were planning to get legally married before your set wedding date, then I would be super taken aback. Otherwise, if as a guest I already knew you were planning to legally wed before your dream vow renewal, then I would think this idea at the halloween party was a neat one.  

    Post # 7
    308 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I say go for it; sounds fun! If you’re planning to do a quickie ceremony anyway, why not have some fun with it at your party? I’m sure people at the party will think it’s hilarious/awesome/whatever. If they hate it or think it’s tacky well…tough crap. To each their own. You’re not asking people for presents, just their presence at a party they already planned on attending.

    Like @likewoah said, if some people you really want there RSVP ‘no’ because they don’t know it’s coming, maybe it’d be worth telling them what’s going on. I’d also try to keep the ceremony really short, like five minutes or so, and do it earlier in the evening, a. because people will be less drunk and more accomodating earlier on and b. so they don’t get frustrated standing around watching a long, impromptu wedding.

    Post # 8
    772 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Oh yeah, I didn’t read your post closely. If you’re planning on having a big wedding reception later, you shouldn’t have a public ceremony now. 

    Post # 9
    2372 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    I think there are a couple factors here:

    1) You know your friends and family well enough, are you fairly certain that this is enough of an annual thing for them to change plans or do what they can to be there? If yes, then you are good there.

    2) You also know your friends and family well enough to know if they will be tickled to see you legally married and would still be just as tickled to come to your big renewal/reception later! I know I would be… but I am laid back and understanding. Some people might react a bit more negatively than you would expect. But again if you feel like they’ll be just as happy, go for it!

    3) How much do you love Halloween? Obviously you probably do because you have a big annual party, but still. Enough for it to be your official wedding date? The anniversary you celebrate? If yes, then you are good there!

    4) I would try to keep it as much of a surprise as was possible because once people know there will be a surprise they won’t be able to help themselves but guess and bring it up and talk about it and its possible the black cat could be let out of the cauldron too early!

    Otherwise I think it’s a fun idea, dressing up as a bride and groom! And your guests will know it’s not a “gift grab” because it’s a surprise so obviously you aren’t doing it to just have the presents/attention, and I think that works very well for your guests!


    Post # 10
    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Sounds like your Halloween party is pretty big, so most of your friends and family that you would want to be there will be.  I think it would be fun to have it as a surprise.

    However, I would treat this as your wedding and not have a reception later.  If I was at your surprise wedding and then a year later got an invitation to a reception I would be like “um, they’re already married…”

    Post # 11
    491 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I love your idea! If I were at a party and the hosts had a surprise wedding I would be absolutely giddy. It kinda reminds me of April and Andy’s surprise wedding on Parks and Rec, which was adorable.

    Post # 12
    1071 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

    I think that’s an awesome idea. Especially since it seems like it is so you (with the annual holloween party and everything. 🙂

    Post # 14
    767 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Wow that’s an awesome idea! I can;t wait to hear more about it. There’s tons of gorgeous black wedding dresses !

    Post # 15
    626 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I can’t wait to see pics.


    Post # 16
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @FutureDrAtkins:  I would go one way or the other– either have a surprise Halloween wedding now, or a big reception later! I wouldn’t do both…

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