Post # 1
Well we just got an email from our officiant. The county rejected our marriage license. Turns out that even though our wedding was two weeks ago, we’re not legally married. A pre-wedding mix-up led to a blue pen being placed on the altar instead of a black pen, so our marriage license was signed by our witnesses in blue pen. Our officiant tried to cover it up by tracing over the names in black pen, but apparently the government doesn’t take kindly to essentially forging legal documents.
At some point you just have to laugh, right? It just cracks me up because near the end of wedding planning when I was so stressed about all of the details, I adopted this mantra, “whatever happens, we’re still going to be married!” The wedding went off without a hitch — I guess it’s the marriage I should have been worried about. I mean, I know we’re still *married,* but some of the wind has been taken out of my sails.
All of that and we got married out of state, so there’s a high probability that we’re going to have to drive all the way back to sort this out. Just what you want two weeks after your wedding, right?
Moral of the story, test your pen. Don’t entrust that task to anyone else.
Post # 3
@cmbr: What? That’s crazy!
Post # 4
Ugh! That was my worst nightmare. I’m sorry that happened to you guys 🙁
Post # 5
Ugh! That’s awful! What does this mean for your legal “anniversary”?
Post # 6
Soooo Sorry this happened to you guys.
BUT… Oh what a story !!
The kids, grandkids and their off-spring will be telling this one for the next 100+ years.
Post # 7
Wow, that’s really ironic. Could you just get legally married in your curent state (city hall style) and discard the old lisence? Or do you have to actually deal with the first one?
Well, you seem to have a good attitude about it. One day, this will be a funny story in your history.
Post # 8
@cmbr: My parents technically have a common law marriage as opposed to a legal one. My dad’s name is George, but was raised as Jorge (the hospital wouldn’t let his parents give them Mexican names). He didn’t start going by George until after my brother, Jorge, was born. So, when it came time to sign the marriage license, he signed it Jorge instead of George. Never bothered to get it fixed.
Post # 9
Yikes! That is a nightmare. And such a stupid thing (both that they only accept black pen and that your officiant tried to trace the names).
Do you really have to go back to the original location to re-do the legal part of it? Since they aren’t accepting the ceremony/certificate as valid, if you have to do it again you might as well just do a city hall/JP deal close to you.
Post # 10
Oh, you poor thing! You seem to be taking it well, so good on you for that 🙂
Really, that’s terrible on the officiant’s part…
Post # 11
We’re hoping that we can handle this from out-of-state. Apparently my friend had a mistake on her original license too, and she just had to fax some forms or something. The part that bums me out is that instead of having a unity candle or a sand ceremony, we had a “signing ceremony” where a soloist sang while the officiant, best man, and maid of honor signed the license.
I thought it was a beautiful way to tie the legal marriage to the spiritual ceremony, so it’s kind of crappy that we won’t have that copy as the official copy. I really wanted my sister to sign as a witness, and if they make us have new witnesses sign, I’m screwed because she lives on the opposite side of the country and flew in for the wedding. I know it’s just a piece of paper that I’ll never really have to even see again, but it’s more the thought behind it.
The part I feel the worst about is that my sister-in-law was the one to put the pen on the altar. She swears it was black when she tested it and she feels terrible. I feel terrible that she feels terrible!
Post # 12
@cmbr: I feel your pain! NJ can’t agree on what township our ceremony actually took place in, so we still aren’t legally married over two months later! I hope your issue gets resolved more quickly than ours has!
Post # 13
omg, this is crazy. i keep wondering what colour ink i signed in now.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@cmbr: I would reapply for it on my first anniversary and have a party with a quick vow renewal so you can resign the document and refile it with your same anniversary date. No matter what you do, it will eventually be a funny story in a few years.
Post # 15
@cmbr: LOL! The same thing happened to us!! We had our officiant (his aunt) sign our marriage certificate and I just handed her a blue pen. Then after she signed, I read the damn thing and it said black pen only. Oops. So we found a black pen and she went over the blue. Well, they rejected it for the same reason and ended up sending her another to resign.
Post # 16
@cmbr: Our officiant wrote the wrong year on our certificate. That was a hassle to get amended.