Surprise wedding before engagement party

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think this would be an interesting option, but would really throw people off if (in a bad way), especially if you are having a lot of guests. My gut tells me that people who are coming to your engagement party are going to expect to be at your wedding ceremony, and might feel a little underappreciated if they come to what they think is an engagement party and you show up married.

Post # 3
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1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

This would be great! As a guest I would be over the moon to find out the real surprise- you’re already married! Can you keep a secret that long? You know the time between your very intimate ceremony and the celebration party. The best part as a guest is there’s no fuss and pressure of a gift. People may bring wine to your engagemenr party ahem your wedding.

Post # 5
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6026 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

As a guest, I’d hate this. I’d find it confusing and probably (in my head) accuse you of trying too hard to imitate some of the wedding-themed reality shows. I’d probably assume you were pregnant or that one of you were getting deported.

Post # 7
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1136 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

rhib:  I think its a lovely idea and if its what you want then go for it! There are no rules saying you need to have a big grand wedding, your day should reflect you and your FI and if that’s what appeals to you, then do it! I have seen some really divine small/intimate weddings, I think it would be really lovely and special 🙂 (and you’d probably save a tonne too! bonus!)

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

rhib:  I just wanted to add that if you’re only having close friends and family then no one is going to think badly of you.. its no ones place to judge what YOU do on your wedding day and if they do, they’re probably not worth having around anyway!

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