Post # 1
My good friend got married at city hall. They can’t afford to have a wedding and reception, but they are having a small family dinner next week. Their cousin and I have decided to throw them a surprise wedding reception for friends/coworkers. The problem is they aren’t registered and I want people to bring gifts. How do I word this on the invitation?
I was thinking something along the lines of:
“Due to the fact that this is a surprise, the lovely couple isn’t registered. As with any new couple, gifts would be welcomed and appreciated. If you don’t know what to get them, gift cards (anthropologie, bed.bath.and.beyond, crate & barrel, target) are a great way to set the happy couple up in their new life. Thank you.”
Post # 3
I would end it after the first sentence.
People will get the idea that gifts are welcomed without your bringing it up .
Post # 4
I don’t think you need to say anything about gifts. You wouldn’t include gift information for a wedding with advanced planning. It’s no different for this situation.
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s polite to come right out and ask for gifts on someone else’s behalf. I think you need to leave that off. People who normally bring a gift will do so. Not everyone is comfortable asking their friends for gifts, and they may be really uncomfortable if you ask in their name.
Post # 7
You might want to try a tweak on what you are saying… I think its fine to mention gifts for a surprise but maybe like this…
“Due to the fact that this is a surprise, the lovely couple isn’t registered. As with any new couple, gifts would be welcomed and appreciated, but are absolutely not required!”
Post # 8
I agree with the first poster. First sentence is all you need :j
Post # 9
It is not good manners to mention gifts on any type of invitation. It would be equally impolite to mention “no gifts”.
People who want to bring gifts will.
Post # 10
the problem is, even though its lovely what youre doing, people will interpret it as gift grabbing (and probably think that the couple are behind it)
Also a lot of people resent being asked to give gifts if they arent invited to the actual event
i would just mention you want to invite them to a surprise wedding reception/celebration type thing. you cant really ask for gifts!
@SageMustard: well thats definitely better than the original wording. because if you mention gifts it will seem they are obligatory.
you could ask people if they wanted to do a joint gift with you – i dont think thats inappropriate
Post # 11
I wouldn’t mention gifts at all.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t mention anything about gifts/registry. It is everyones decision whether or not they will bring gifts for the couple. It’s not your concern and giving them ideas of where/what types of gifts to get comes off kind of rude.
Post # 13
That’s so nice of you to plan a reception for your friend!! I don’t think you need to even mention the part about not being registered and suggesting gift cards because if people are invited to a wedding reception, they should know that it is good manners to bring a gift. I’m sure they’ll end up with gift cards and cash without you even having to mention it! Hope everything turns out well!!
Post # 14
I agree to not mention gifts. It’s completely up to the guest if the want to bring one or not and can come across quite rude if mentioned on the invite. The couple will receive SOME gifts at least. Even at our pre-planned wedding reception some people didn’t buy gifts but they still got a thank you card for coming, it was their choice to not bring anything and I’d never question their choices
Post # 15
Don’t say anything, people who want to will bring gifts. And no matter what the couple will be happily surprised.
Post # 16
OP, I like what you wrote.