(Closed) surprised by dissapointment

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Don’t feel silly.  I don’t know how much I can help because I’m not having children, but I know it can be frustrating.  I watched my sister get frustrated (she had fibroids and cysts and all that fun stuff to complicate things).  If nothing happens next month, why don’t you both go get physicals during your “not trying” time period?  Make sure there are no road blocks with you or with him or his sperm count so at least you have as much information as you can.

Post # 4
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681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

i definitely know how you feel. i think i was actually most disappointed the first 1 or 2 months, mainly because i thought as soon as i went off bc it would be so easy to get pregnant. but it did take awhile. don’t feel silly, i think it’s always a little discouraging when you’re ttc and get your af. just know that it will happen when it’s supposed to, and when it does it will be that much more exciting.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sure that when we start trying when/if I get my period those first few months, I will be disappointed too!  Here’s to getting pregnant next month though!  Good luck and have fun 🙂

Post # 7
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818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

My hubby and I are using NAF to not get pregnant right now, but last month my period was about 2 days late and I was so excited, but didn’t say anything because it was only 2 days.  It came on the third day and I was incredibly disappointed even though I knew it was for the best for us right now. 

Your time will come! I’ve heard it can take a few months for people to get pregnant after BC.

Good luck!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I know exactly how you feel!  I recently went off the pill and we started TTC.  In the days before my first post-pill period was due, I went back and forth a hundred times.  I want to be pregnant, no, I don’t, yes, I do, no, I don’t.  So when I got my period, I did not expect to be as devastated as I was.  It was like the world ended.  Cry

I know on average, it takes about 6-9 months to conceive.  But you hear all these stories about women who went off the pill and got pregnant right away – it happened to my mom, twice!  But it took my best friend 10 months to concieve.  It sounds like you are doing the right things, so hang in there!  Good luck!

(Oh, BTW, I’m 34, so I hear the clock ticking, as well!)

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

There is a great TTC (Trying to Conceive) thread on the bee.  I’m sure many of the gals over there could offer you some support.  Many of them are going through the same thing! 

 

Post # 10
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567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park

My husband is 23 and I turn 25 in a couple of weeks, and it took us seven months of actively trying to finally conceive. I was bbt charting, calendar charting, you name it. It didn’t help that he gets sent on the road about 50% of the time for his job this first year, but we got lucky every month to be able to “try” each fertile week. The positive came as a total shock, I’d gotten to the point where I thought we’d never get pregnant. I know 7 months isn’t all that long when you think about it, but having to deal with period after period when we were trying so hard was depressing.  I wish you both the best of luck!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You’re definitely not alone.  I’ve been off BC for four months now and I was convinced this month was the month.  My period was 4 days late and I took a pregnancy test only to find out it was a BFN… AF came later that day.  I totally cried, and then felt so silly for being so emotional about it.  I couldn’t come and read the baby boards at all that day though, it just got the tears flowing again… stupid hormones. 

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