Post # 1
i am newly engaged, and am looking for a venue for my wedding and reception. i found this place i absolutely love, EXCEPT, it’s nestled in a residential area so they require all music to be turned off and guests to leave by 9:30 p.m.!!! do you think it’s do-able?? i’m so torn on what to do! i love this place! 🙁
Post # 3
It depends on the wedding. Sometimes I leave after the first dance, sometimes I’m there dancing til the end. It just depends on how well I know the bride and groom and other guests and on how good the DJ is.
What time are you getting married? Can you start the reception earlier? Or if you guys aren’t done partying, think about an after party at a nearby club.
Post # 4
And welcome to weddingbee!!!
Post # 5
Anything is doable! If you can just start earlier. Unless you have a ton of friends that want to party late, I bet most guests will be relieved its over by 9:30 (that’s late for my grandma!). I second the idea of having an after party for anyone not ready to call it a night. And you don’t have to go out of your way to make this part wedding-y.
Post # 6
I usually stay until the last dance, especially if it’s a family member’s wedding where I know most of the guests.
I agree with checking out somewhere close by for an after-party. I have that worry too as weddings in my family generally don’t end until after midnight and some of the venues I like say that they have to end at 10 or 11pm, which I know will not fly well with my family.
Post # 7
we’re goinmg to havea spontaneous after party and have the DJ announce it before the last song; still havent decided yet has to be loungy and clubby for the loungers and the dancers
Post # 8
I won’t leave until the cake is cut.
I think ending at 9:30 is fine (what time were you going to begin?). You may also want to consider a post-party location in case others want to continue the fun!
Post # 9
We ended our wedding at about 10, and I was nervous about having to do so. But in the end, it didn’t matter at all. Out of our 220+ guests, there was not a single person left at 10 who wasn’t either a best friend or immediate family member, so I didn’t feel like we were kicking anyone out. The place was actually pretty cleared out by about 9. So I say, go with the place you love and just start a little earlier!
Post # 10
If you start a little bit earlier, I dont think it will be a problem…I was at a friends wedding where they left at 11, but most of the guests were gone by 9:30-10. It was just the close friends left at the end.
Post # 11
I usually stay at a wedding until the end. I love going to weddings and my FI and I always have a good time tearing up the dance floor! That being said though it wouldn’t matter if the wedding ended at 10pm or at 11pm. It really just depends on what time you have your ceremony and what time the reception starts and how long you want your reception to be. If you want to have a full 4 hour reception, you’d have to bump your ceremony up. I wouldn’t worry about what your guests will think/want. Just do what you and your FI want to do! 🙂
Post # 12
What time of the year is your wedding? When you’re having an evening wedding, its kind of nice to have the dancing portion of the reception when its dark out – certainly not critical, but nice. If your wedding is in the winter, it will have been dark out for several hours by 9:30!
Post # 13
i always stay until the music has stopped and everyone is leaving, so i couldn’t imagine leaving at 9… but if you have something planned, like an after-party or something, then i think that would be a good plan the guests who like to stay late.
Post # 14
Our reception ended at 9, and it was great. Most people stuck around until almost the end, and then we did meet a lot of our friends at the hotel bar afterwards. It was a little early, but it wasn’t disappointingly so. FYI, our ceremony started at 4 and the reception at 4:30. I think length is probably more important than just the time.
Post # 15
I think the after-party is the way to go for this one. Is there a hotel everyone is staying at? It is a little cheesey but hotel bars are often a really fun place to finish the night after weddings, and people don’t have to drive home. After a recent wedding we even ran into another wedding group from the day and we all celebrated together. 🙂
Post # 16
I don’t pay attention to the clock. I always leave at the very end. I’ve always seen other people do that as well, including the bride and groom.