- Miss Sorbet
- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
I know divorce is an ugly topic for a wedding website, but I have gotten so much great advice from bees in the past I thought I would come here again.
DH and I have been together 7 years, married 1.5. We are both 24 years old. During our engagement I had some feelings of things not being quite right, but I thought it was just cold feet and if I pushed through everything would be fine again soon. It wasn’t. We continued to grow distant along with a multitude of other problems and a few months ago it hit me that my marriage was ending. We started counseling and we have tried, but I think it was already over.
Last weekend we had the biggest fight we have ever had. I left and took my clothes with me. He begged me to come home and I did, but this morning he told me he’s moving out and asked for a divorce.
He wants me to fight for him and say that I don’t want this…but I know it’s the best for both of us. I think he would sweep our problems under the rug if we could just leave things the way they are, but we are not happy. It’s hard because he is really such a good guy. It is absolutely tearing me apart to hurt him.
Anyway, I would love some advice or encouragement from anyone who has been through a divorce, or even anyone who hasn’t. This has easily been the worst period of my life and it is far from over. Everyone thought we were the perfect couple and we did too…we never expected this in a million years. But I guess no one ever does.