Post # 1
I read some posts about things that have gone wrong at weddings, and one of them got me thinking. I have an aunt and uncle that I’m close to who came to our wedding this spring. We never received a gift from them, and after waiting for a few weeks after the wedding (some people had gifts shipped to our new apartment), I wrote them a note to thank them for coming and saying how I was looking forward to visiting this summer.
We’re off to visit them and I can’t help wondering: what if they gave us a gift and it was stolen? We didn’t “assign” anyone to watch the gifts, and several posts have mentioned gift thieves. I can’t help but wonder if they gave us a present we never received. It isn’t really in their nature to follow up about a gift, even if we’d never sent a thank you note at all. I obviously can’t ask them about this, but I worry that something may have gone awry. Any advice?
Post # 3
Just one gift missing? I bet they just didn’t give you one. Just let it go.
Post # 4
Just thank them for attending since that is all you can do. It’s rude to bring anything up about stolen/misplaced gifts.
Gifts/cards are less likely to be stolen if you know every guest in attendance and you are the only wedding/event at your venue during that time frame, and in most groups that is not an issue at all. Plus make sure that someone has scotch tape to secure cards to packages.
At the same time, many people don’t bring gifts to the wedding since it’s not a requirement to do so and they do have up to a year to give you something, if they intend to at all, per proper etiquette.
Post # 5
Did you register? Did someone buy something off the registry that you never received? Were there a lot of boxed gifts?
Post # 6
Can another family member ask discreetly? I think you have a valid concern. Was anything else missing?
Post # 7
@nannettenicole: There were a few other people who didn’t give gifts, but I think they just didn’t give gifts.
@Selene221: I know it’s by no means a “requirement”, but my aunt and uncle usually give gifts at weddings, so it struck me that they might have given something but it was taken. We knew all of our guests, but there were many staff members from various vendors (caterer, rentals, venue, etc.).