Suspect I'm getting written up at work tomorrow

posted 2 weeks ago in Career
Post # 2
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Embassy suites Hotel

jannigirl :  I honestly wouldn’t worry about it too much and I don’t think you’ll get written up for it. She probably does want to address the situation and discus what happened but I doubt it will go any further than that. 

Post # 5
19 posts

jannigirl :  bee , first … don’t over think . You are a confident, strong woman and whatever comes your way you will be able to handle it. Be strong and stand up for yourself if the time does come. For now everything is ok and maybe it’s nothing even related to that 🙂 keep us posted 

Post # 6
2038 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

Ahhhhh, I think you’re like me. Any time a manager says, let’s touch base, I immediately think I’m in trouble. It’s so rediculous, I just shoot back, ‘am I in trouble? ‘ every time. She knows I have anxiety. 

Post # 7
12009 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s a new manager – they probably want to sit down with you and discuss how things go and establish roles and responsibilities. 

Post # 9
1806 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Not every “discussion” needs to be negative. Depending on the dynamic of your working environment, it may just be a private place and EVERYTHING (positive, negative, nuetral) is required to be disccussed behind closed doors. Don’t panic. From your boss’s perspective it’s just “safer” to discuss things (and more professional) in a one on one.

Post # 10
1588 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Oh man, every time my boss sends me an email that says anything like “we need to talk” or “let’s have a meeting” the first place my brain goes is “Oh crap, what did I do!” and then we always talk about things like plans for the future or big events coming up.  I have never actually had to have a meeting about me being in trouble, but that is ALWAYS the first place my mind goes… 

Post # 11
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Don’t panic, but I’d still backup my stuff. Sometimes your gut feeling is right and you wouldn’t want to ignore it completly if you can take small steps to be better prepared in case you were right.

Post # 12
393 posts
Helper bee

You all deserve some support. Part of being a good manager is creating a working environment where people feel comfortable. “We need to talk” is a statement known for inducing tension and foreboding. It’s perfectly acceptable to ask your manager to include the topic in any meeting request, so that you can prepare accordingly and show up ready.

Post # 13
4064 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

Don’t they have to do a verbal warning before a written warning? I wouldn’t stress.

PS: I have been written up at previous jobs, and it’s surprisingly not a huge deal. They just have a piece of paper saying you’ve been talked to about whatever. Then you accept your slap on the wrist, sign it and go on your merry way.

Post # 14
1360 posts
Bumble bee

jannigirl :  Try not to panic, not all meetings with the boss turn out being bad. Maybe it’s just a basic discussion to go over some things?

Post # 15
2042 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Ugh, I haaaaaaate when my bosses do this. Always makes me think I’m in trouble.

I was an admin so the “we need to talk” meeting was usually about something asinine like, “Isabelle, which color finish should I pick for my new desk? I was thinking maple veneer would brighten up the space but is gray pebble more stylish?” or “Isabelle, I need you to plan a retirement party for Coworker V. You have a $500 budget to feed 30 people and I want to see a Mexican buffet, a NICE cake, and lots of helium balloons.”

Hopefully it’s something dumb like that. 

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