- 5 years ago
here it goes
I have a best friend who lives in Virginia. We went to High school together. I eventually moved to Cedar Rapids Iowa in 2008 and now I finally live in Omaha. Me and my best friend have been best friends for six to seven years.
In 2010 she is dating a guy who she met in her community college and he moved to north carolina after a few months after they started dating. she has gone to visit him and he has gone to see her. at some point and possibly still happening now they havent talked on the phone every day or every other day. they have gone a few days without talking to eachother through calls, video chats, or skype. He works as a bagger in a grocery store and dosent make a lot of money but works many hours per day.
fast foward to present day they are still long distance and they have been long distance for three years and my best friends boyfriend has been patient to some degree and hes very anxious for her and her family to move to north carolina. she has a learners permit, shes 24 years old going on 25 and has a learning dissablity.
today i had a hour long conversation with my best friend who i am somewhat suspicious about. she told me that she told her bf that she is only taking one or two classes at a time at her community college because her gpa is low. when i mean low she told me it is 1.5 or something and he said that it will take her three years and he dosent wanna wait that long until they get married.(fyi she is not engaged yet). she told me after she finished community college that her councler suggested that she does the uva program at her community college. I heard somewhere if she did that then her gpa would have to be higher then a 2.0 ie 3.5. So now im wondering if shes being somewhat dishonest.
i suggested to her that she can get her bachelors in north carolina and she says her mom will probley say no to that and would want her to get her bachelors in virginia. i then said that she should take online classes through uva and she liked that suggestion. i even suggested that she lived in a dorm at uva and she says she dosent know if she can live by herself or take care of her self and i said that she would be with other people. I even told her that with her getting her bachelors in north carolina that her and matt can go to the same university and make mutual friends and she said true. i sort have suggested transfering to a different community college so she can be with her bf assuming that she should put her bf first but she said she needs to finish at her community college in va cause she comfortable with her friends their and teachers. she even said she is afraid that north carolina colleges might not be as good as virginia schools.
Here is my question. My question becomes is my bestfriend lying to me about the uva thing, her feelings about her bf, or is the counsler she has is dumb? suggestions?