Post # 1
My fiance proposed to me with a lovely solitaire ring, which happened to be K in color. Being a solitaire, I personally did not think the color was noticeable and it looked plenty white to me.
Fast forward to us picking out wedding bands…I chose a wrap that adds side stones to my band. The side stones came in “I” color and it would cost a significant amount to have them swapped out to “K” color. When I tried on my band with my e-ring, it made my e-ring stone appear yellow.
Well, my Fiance and I briefly discussed that I could just swap out my e-ring stone to an I-colored stone so that it would match the side stones. I asked the jeweler about this and it was only going to be a couple hundered dollars to do this (which would be less than getting the side diamonds swapped to a K color). The closest stone they had to mine which was in I color was actually even a little bit bigger, and still not much money to “trade up” to.
I decided to go ahead and do it. Now I suddently am feeling guilty because I gave up the original stone that Fiance took the time to pick out and proposed to me with, and will never have that stone back. I am also feeling nervous because I didn’t take the time to really look at this new stone’s clarity, and it has a slightly worse clarity grade than my previous diamond did. What if I get it and start to notice visable flaws? I think I should have taken the time to think about this decision more than I did.
Did I make the wrong decision??
Post # 3
@D0GL0VER: It might be too soon to think about it being the wrong decision. I get the feeling of attachment to that ring cause that’s what you Fiance gave you in the first place but keep in mind he agreed to do this and it was something you did together so don’t feel guilty about it. As for the flaws, you don’t know if they stone has them so don’t worry about it beforehand.
Post # 4
@D0GL0VER: to be honest, something sounds off to me. There should be a significant price difference between an I and a K, all else being equal. What size is your diamond? Did the same lab grade both stones? What are the clarities of the old and new stones? Is the cut quality the same?
You shouldn’t feel guilty IMO if your fiance is on board, but maybe it would be worthwhile to sleep on it to make sure you don’t rush into anything.
Post # 5
I think a color difference would be more noticeable than clarity in your case because it is right next to other stones. I understand you feeling bad that you got rid of the original stone, but it’s the meaning behind the ring – not the ring itself, that’s important.
If you didn’t switch it out, I’m sure the color difference would bother you. I think you made the right decision, but if you think about upgrading/changing in the future, I would advise against that because of the feelings you are having now.
If you do find flaws, just realize that nothing is perfect and embrace the individuality of your ring!
Post # 6
@Over the Moon: I echo your words!
Post # 7
Did you receive a GIA or other certificate with the stats of the new stone?
Post # 8
@Over the Moon: It depends on the stone, and she did say she went down in clarity. A “couple” hundred dollars could mean closer to a thousand??
We were originally looking at a .90 G, SI1, and decided to go for a 1.03, H, SI2 instead for only $400 more.
Post # 9
@Over the Moon: It was about a $250 difference. The jeweler has a policy that when upgrading to an equal or more expensive stone, the customer gets back exactly what they paid for it originally. That coupled with the fact that apparently diamond values went down last month, and the decrease in clarity, I guess is why it wasn’t much more. The original was a .60, the new is .67.
Post # 10
Agreed with PP, if you didn’t switch, the color difference would bug you!!
Post # 11
Thanks for your responses, I’m feeling better about it now. I think I’ll feel even better once I get my ring back next week!
Post # 12
I am going through this same thing right now. We went to pick out rings and I have always loved Pear and I completely fell in love with the setting before the diamond. The setting is a halo that is F/G and after that I probably would have taken anything. The diamond ended up being a 1 ct center I. I didn’t even bother to ask while I was there so I called afterwards and the salesman told me it was an I. Both the Fiance and I were disappointed as we thought it would have been a G/H. It turns out it would be over a grand to change so we went with the I. I haven’t seen it yet but the Fiance has and he says it isn’t noticable. I am not quite sure. I would feel bad to change it but at the same time, it is the ring you will hopefully have for a long time.
Post # 13
I agree that the color would have really bothered you. Maybe you just need to get the ring back to see how you feel. The new diamond will be present during your ceremony so it will have special meaning as well.
Post # 14
keep in mind, that in the end it’s just a ring. As long as you and your Fiance are both fine with it, it shouldn’t be a big deal. I thnk you made a great decision, because It will match nicer.. and will still be a representation of your committement to each other.
Post # 15
I would keep in mind that melee stones/sidestones/smaller stones since they are smaller ALWAYS look a lot whiter. Even if your bands stones were a K, and your centre stone a K, the melee stones will face up whiter. Just the way melee works, and larger stones show more body colour than smaller stones.
I cannot tell you what to do about your centre stone. If you are not comfortable changing it, maybe either enjoy the warmth for what it is or choose wedding bands that does not show such contrast (like plain, engraved, coloured stones, etc). I know I would recommend that if you do choose the I stone, you should be very sure that you are not losing out on quality (not going from a SI1 to a I2, a GIA graded to an EGL graded, from an ideal/excellent cut to a very good/good cut), etc.
Post # 16
I have to say that I do have my ring now and it is set in a halo and I can hardly tell the warmer tones except on a cloudy day. It is a VVS2 so it is pretty clear and sparkly. Most people think its a lot bigger than what it is first and no one notices the color. I think I only notice because I wear it all the time.