Post # 1
Ok. So my parents are completely paying for my wedding (technically my dad as he’s the one that works). This is a cultural thing and how traditional first marriages are “supposed” to be in my country. Well my dad is making a HUGE stink over me wanting a wedding party table over a sweetheart table. I mean big stink as is manipulating, screaming, etc. (I know, he’s difficult).
His reasoning is that the wedding is supposed to be more of a “cocktail” wedding, as in over half the guest list will not be assigned seating and will instead be in a “lounge area” with tall tables, couches, etc. He feels that with the vibe of the wedding being more loungy the idea of a wedding party table is too formal. He has said it will look “tacky”. I feel like if I want a bridal part table, why not? But the more I think of it the more I feel like he has a point and a wedding party table would look out of place because the vibe of the wedding is supposed to be more “clubby/lounge” than formal.
On the other hand, the rebelious daughter in me feels like I can’t give in to what my dad wants! I’m super grateful for this wedding, I really really am! But they’ve chosen most things, why can’t I chose something as simple as who I sit with? Ok, rant over. What is your opinion? Sweetheart table or Wedding party table?
Post # 3
@Imean: I am confused by your explanation and your poll. Your dad wants you to have a sweetheart table? If so, then option #1 and #4 are the same thing. So those results would need to be combined.
Post # 4
@ceebree: Thanks for the observation. I think option 1 is more of a “pick the sweetheart because it will go better with the atmosphere of the wedding”. Option 4 was more a: “do what your dad wants because he’s paying and you’re being a brat”. If that makes sense!
Post # 5
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You should just have the sweetheart table. First of all, it’s what he wants, and he’s paying. Second of all, I think he’s right. Third, your wedding party will be able to sit with their dates, which they will appreciate.
Post # 7
I tend to think your dad is right and the wedding party table will be too formal.
Post # 8
If we do a Head table we would sit the wedding party with their dates as well. But I’m now starting to think my dad might have a point and it will look out of place since its so formal.
Post # 9
@Imean: I think you could make it work either way, but I guess one question is… is this one worth the fight? If it’s really important to you, I get that. But if it’s a place where you could “choose your battles” so to speak, it may be worth it just to keep the peace.
Post # 10
You are hardly going to have time to sit at your table anyways. This isnt a battle worth fighting.
Post # 11
You should just do a sweetheart table, but put your bridal party in tables right near yours so you can still chat and see them easily. It seems kind of like a compromise.
Post # 12
@Imean: I’m a firm believer of whoever pays gets the say. Like other bees said, you’ll hardly be at your table, so this isn’t a fight worth fighting.
Post # 13
I think it’s great to be your own person, except when the person paying for your wedding has a very passionate opinion about something! I would definitely do the sweetheart table.
Post # 14
@Imean: Well then I agree with both.
Post # 15
@housebee: I really like how you’ve all presented this… You are right, its not worth fighting for. I’ve been sick to my stomach all morning due to the stress this has caused. So not worth it!
@LittleRedOwl: That’s a good idea. I just would prefer to give the bridal party a “spot” in the assigned seating side of the room as the girls are going to have their bouquets, purses, shawls… etc.
Post # 16
@Imean: There are definitely some battles worth fighting, but no need to be sick to your stomach over this one! And like others said, we sat at our table to eat and…that was it. The rest of the time, you’re up mingling, dancing, and celebrating! 🙂