Post # 1
I am sure you will understand this if you were ever bullied!
I was mistreated, bulied,called names by this girl since junior High! In High School she made my life hell! She was the “popular” one and I was not exactly pretty.
Our parents were friends so they kind “forced” us to hang out. But she would always say I was fat. She would not invite me to parties (although she would invite EVERYBODY else!).
Well, thank God, I went to college far away. She moved with her parents and the alst news I ahd were that she got pregnant from a boyfriend. Fast forward to now. I am back in my home town and heard from a friend she was back too! I was completely TERRIFIED! It turns out I was at the gym and saw her get in! I left in that second! And then I actually didn’t go to the gym for days!
Fiance noticed that I was weird and asked what was going on. I told him ****I LOVE MY GUY!!!***
He said I was a beautiful woman and should not be “afraid” of her.
Well, I have changed a lot. I am better looking, in shape and successful and I also thought my confidence was better —apparently not…
The next day i went to a class at the gym, there she was. I got in, stayed in the front (she was in the back) and left as soon as it ended. But I figured I could not live like this forever. Well, today, there she was again. And she came to talk to me! She has aged and is overweight… She looked at me and said: Hi, Laura, how are you? And I just smiled!!!!!!!!!
She said: “Don’t you remember me?” And I smiled again, looked her from head to toes and said: “Of course I do” and left!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hahahahaha, called me a child but I never felt so good!!!!!!!
Post # 3
I hate to be a buzzkill, but stooping to her level (or even lower, seeing as you’re both adults now), to me, is not revenge… its just being nasty.
I bumped in to a girl who used to treat me horribly, and she was all chatty and friendly, so I swallowed my nerves and just said “umm…do you remember how mean you were to me in middle school?”
Her face dropped. She looked awkward for a minute and then said “I honestly don’t remember…I’m sorry…really”
and we hugged, and are quite friendly now.
It felt a lot more satisfying than trying to make a fellow woman feel like shit over her physical appearance… just food for thought if you see her at the gym again.
Post # 4
@cobalt21: I know how you feel!!
Post # 5
First of all, cheers for finding your self-confidence and feeling good about yourself – inside and out!
Remain the bigger person in all of this and don’t let this turn you into the same kind of person she was towards you. Making someone feel like less of a person, even thought they did it to you, isn’t going to right the past.
Post # 6
@mandypop: I totally understand OP and I don’t think she was being nasty.
Post # 8
I went through alot of that stuff too in HS…it was rough. But I am nothing but polite to those people when I see them now, because I’m guessing they aren’t going around doing the same stuff they did in HS. We’ve all changed so much….heck we’re all 30. If they haven’t changed, then I feel sorry for them.
Post # 9
I was made fun of by this girl in HS. She was pretty (and still is) but skinny and she would call me names, laugh at everything I wore, and comment on how fat I looked and stuff like that. I never stuck up for myself.
And well, maybe I didn’t need to because fast forward to 5 years later. Miss Priss is as big as an elephant and I’ve lost 26 pounds and look damn good. Karma came and bit her in her Krispie Kreme ass.
…..And I just 🙂
Post # 10
I had some girls who weren’t very nice to me at all. I was never made fun of in the way you are describing. They would mostly spread rumors about me. I was a slut, had aids, tried to steal boyfriends, etc. None of it was true. I was very quiet and kept to myself.
It’s just a strange feeling when they act like nothing every happened and they are so friendly now.
A lot of them did put on weight.. inside I laugh like hell, but I would never say something to hurt them. You don’t even need to. Chances are that they already know.
Post # 11
So basically, according to some of these posts, the only thing that makes those girls bullies, and you girls innocent, is that you make fun of them for their weight and appearance behind their backs instead of to their faces. Hmm.
Post # 12
I think she could have been a lot worse to her! I’ll be honest, a couple girls were aweful to me in highschool and when I heard they got fat, or flunked college, or other things I smiled alittle. I really do think how you treat people comes back to you one day.
Post # 13
@mandypop: Im with you.
People do things in their youth which I am sure they regret as adults. Being immature can be understandable when you are a youth (especially if you have poor role models) but when your an adult yeah theres no excuse for it. Two wrongs never make a right!
Post # 14
@mandypop: I’m kinda with you. I am sympathetic with fleeting not-so-nice thoughts towards someone who was previously mean. It’s a rather natural reaction, in my opinion. However, I believe that after the thought is done, that should really be the end of it.
I just don’t care about these people from high school anymore. One of them who treated me poorly was my own cousin. She was apparently afraid that I would interrupt her life when I moved to her small town, so she told everyone that I was recently released from a mental hospital right before I started. Since the most well know institution in the state is in the town where I used to live (along with a major university, fantastic schools, and generally being the 4th largest city in my former state), everyone believed her. It was bizarre, to say the least. I just don’t care about any of these folks – her and those who believed her. I don’t friend them on Facebook, even when they send requests. I don’t really put myself in situations where I’m likely to run into them. I just simply don’t care. I don’t have to be nice, and I have no reason to be mean.
Now, OP is running into the person in the course of her daily life, so that’s a little difference. However, I don’t think there was any need to just leave and be rude that way. There are many ways to be polite, but still make it clear you don’t have any desire to socialize with that person.
Post # 15
@mandypop: So basically, according to some of these posts, the only thing that makes those girls bullies, and you girls innocent, is that you make fun of them for their weight and appearance behind their backs instead of to their faces.
Thank you for saying it. I totally agree.
Post # 16
hahaha loved it! Who cares if you stooped to her level for one second for sweet revenge. she made your teen years hell… you have the right to be proud that you didn’t get pregnant so early, you are successful and living a healthy life! Enjoy it sista!