(Closed) Sweetened the Deal

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Hmmm.  I did not do this, and I don’t think I would be comfortable doing that because then I would wonder why my guy was actually proposing.  I agree with everything else you said however about being a team and he should get a gift–but I do not think that’s why he should propose.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t think it would make a guy who is not ready to get married propose, but if he has the ring/has a plan and is just moving slower than you would like then I think it would speed up the process. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

I didn’t “sweeten the deal”. I know it’s not what you mean, but to me that sounds like bribing your SO into proposing before he really wants to. But I do agree with the general idea of them getting something too. I’m buying my FI a PS3 this summer as an engagement present. A few girls I know have bought engagement gifts for their men, and the guys really do seem to appreciate the gesture. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

@sleepingbeauty88: I totally understood what you meant, and I was agreeing with you overall, it’s just the wording that threw me off a bit. We really do need the sarcasm font eh ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@sleepingbeauty88: Makes sense.  Maybe you should just buy him the camera then as a total surprise and “just because”. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Hey – if it works – hell yeah!  They do deserve something if you think about it.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I wouldn’t do this for a proposal- I don’t get the mentality “I proposed so now what do I get” but if it works for you- then that is great.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with some that when reading it, it does sound a bit like bribing, but I know that’s not what you mean. I actually think it’s a really sweet idea that you would get something he really wanted since he got you something you really wanted. Plus it gives him a little bit more to look forward to (because as much as we’d all love to believe that our SOs love shelling out thousands for a ring and enjoy planning out ways to ask us to marry them…it’s not really the case lol). Plus I bet things like this remind him of why he wants to marry you!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

Never thought about it. I’m open to the idea of a “gift to my new fiance” and it would probably be a surprise after the engagement. Don’t newlyweds give gifts to their new spouses? Same idea as that. 

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