Post # 1
We have decided that we would like to do a sweetheart table for our wedding. We have noy been trying to figure out just where we would like to place it. I came across a post somewhere that said to do it in the middle amongst the rest of the guests. I really liked that idea and brought it up to FMIL and she was worried that it was bad because our backs would be to some guests. I liked it because we thought it would be a bit more intamate and we could be closer to more guests. What are your thoughts on this? Would it be really bad if we put it in the middle of all of the tables?
Post # 3
Thinking about weddings I’ve been to and if their SH table had been in the middle- I would not have liked it. If I had been on the back side, I would have felt I was missing a lot. Are they smiling right now? Someone’s taking their picture, what are they doing? What is she saying? (it’s easier to tell in a loud room when you can see their lips and faces what going on). I would have left feeling ignored.
Post # 4
We’re putting ours kinda where the head table would be but a little closer to everybody than that. For us, the reason for it is for it be intimate; not in the middle with everybody looking at us.
Post # 5
I thought sweetheart tables were normally for two reasons.. so the bridal party could sit with their dates, and so the happy couple could be alone without feeling like they are royalty.
I think putting the sweetheart table in the middle of everyone would kind of defeat the purpose of one of those.. and as the PP mentioned, some people could be staring at the back of your heads, all night.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
We had ours in the middle and just (organically) moved our chairs around depending on what was going on… so I don’t think our backs were to a section of guests the whole time.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@Western: If you’re going to have toasts at your wedding, think about where the person toasting will stand. You’ll probably be sitting at your sweetheart table during the toasts, so you want to have a good view of them.
Other than that, I doubt you’ll spend much time at your sweetheart table so I wouldn’t worry about it too much! You’ll be way too busy mingling with all your guests, dancing (if you plan on having dancing), etc. Literally the only time we spent at our sweetheart table was during the toasts.
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Western: We put our head table in the middle of our guests and I loved it! Our backs were to our parents tables, but they’d just gotten the best view of the ceremony so I wasn’t worried about it.
Post # 9
I voted no because I really don’t like the idea of having my back to a portion of our guests.