Post # 1
Been lurking around the boards for a while now and hope I can get some guidance 🙂
My FI’s parents and my parents are divorced. They have been for a long time and neither set of parents is friendly with one another. This obviously makes the wedding seating chart even more complicated than usual!
My plan was to seat my mom with his and my dad with his, and just have our 6-person bridal party at our table. When I told my mom this, she was more hurt than I expected. She says she’ll respect my wishes but is sad that seh doesn’t get to sit with me.
Although she’s not raising a fuss, I think maybe I should have a sweetheart table in order not to upset anyone? I’ve seen some Pinterest photos that include two empty chairs so anyone can come chat with the newlyweds for a few minutes during the dinner hour.
Thoughts and experiences welcome!!
Post # 3
I’ve never been at a wedding where the parents sat with the bride and groom. Ever.
Post # 5
We had a sweetheart table because of awks family situations. It worked out great. Everyone got to sit with someone to talk to, and DH and I had a chance to have some sort of private time conversation.
Post # 6
We had a sweetheart table and it went fine. I liked being able to sit with him and just breathe for a few minutes.
Post # 7
I loved having a sweethearts table. It was like a homebase for us because I knew there’s always a seat and drinks at that table (and our coordinator and caterer always had food/dessert waiting for us). It was also a great opportunity for DH and me to chat about the wedding and exchange thoughts. We gave each set of parents their own table to host with their friends/immediate family members and they were pretty happy with it.
Post # 8
I’ve never been to a wedding where the parents sat with the bride and groom either. Usually the bridal party sits with the bride and groom and the parents/grandparents have their own table somewhere else.
Post # 9
@MsJ2theZ: Agreed, I’ve never seen the bride and groom sitting with family members who weren’t BMs/GMs (ie., parents). Parents of the bride and groom are always sitting with the other family members at the tables immediately closest to the head table. Even the wedding I attended where the MOB was the MOH (bizarre) didn’t have the MOB sitting with the bride & groom. So I think you need to tell your mom that that’s not normal regardless, but if you think it’ll be drama and you prefer to just do the sweetheart table, then go for it.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@amilly87: Typically the bridal party (bridesmaids and groomsmen) sit with the bride and groom at the headtable (unless you are in the UK where it’s common for the parents and grandparents to also sit at the headtable.) I don’t think that your arrangement is odd and I think it’s an excellent idea to sit the divorced parents at separate tables. If you expect there to be any more issues involving the bridal party (i.e. bridesmaids wanting to sit with their spouses, etc…) then a sweetheart table is an excellent idea. I did one for my first wedding and loved it. For my current wedding my FI and I are eating in a separate room so we can eat in peace before dealing with guests.
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@amilly87: Well if you have a sweetheart table, you don’t get to sit with any of your guests! Does she know that’s not normal for weddings? My mom had some pretty ridiculous ideas about our wedding too….
She’ll get over it, do what you want! Usually you don’t spend much time seated anyway so what does it matter?
Post # 13
I will expand because I made a pretty straight up comment. USUALLY what I see is that the parents tables are placed closest to the bridal party table, sweetheart table, whatever you choose. My parents are divorced and they were sat with their closest relatives, at the tables closest to us, along with a table for DH’s parents and his family. They will still be right there next to you if you place it that way.
Post # 14
I did not want to do a sweetheart table, I think it’s so awkward to randomly be sitting by yourself in the front. But, in the end, we decided it’s the best option. They all get along great, so that wasn’t going to be an issue. However, it does mean there are sooo many parents to accommodate, as they are all remarried. So, it just makes sense to do a sweetheart table (no bridal or grooms party for a headtable though I, honestly, hate those).
Post # 15
@MsJ2theZ: I’m shocked! I have only been to a few weddings as an adult and never really took note of where the parents are sitting… but this seems to be the consensus. Is a table with the bridal party most common?
Post # 16
@amilly87: Sweetheart table was the best decision we made. We were able to have a nice dinner together and have some time to ourselves!