Post # 1
FI and I have only been engaged for 1 month and were exploring our options. At first we were leaning heavily toward a destination wedding in Mexico, but after a LOT of thought and debate, we are switching to a more typical ceremony and reception at an upscale restaurant near home.
We just couldn’t ask our close families to spend so much money on a trip at a resort that we really couldn’t find GREAT reviews for. This restaurant we are now going with has impeccable service so I know it will be great.
Part of me is a bit bummed…it is going to be quite a bit more expensive for us and although the restaurant will naturally take care of a lot of things (food, drink, tables, chairs, dishes, silverware) we will need to arrange an officiant, photographer, decor, just a lot of things that I didn’t want to have to stress over.
Isn’t wedding planning supposed to be FUN? All I can think about is the money we’re spending and praying to God that the guests have a good time…and also feeling anxious about all of the attention being on us. I’m having so much dress anxiety and am afraid I’ll end up looking like a whale in the dress I ordered which won’t be in until November. I sort of just want to be married and have it over with.
This is mostly just a vent I guess…I hope we are making the right decision.
Post # 3
That would be really frustrating :-/ We are doing DW too to save on money and hassle, I dont know what we’d do if that fell through…
Post # 4
@JLR1982: I know exactly how you feel. FI and I were planning a DW in Vegas. Which we are still having. But we were told by his parents that if we don’t get married locally we HAVE to have an engagement party — which will be about 200 people, so its basically a wedding reception. I’m still not a fan of this and hate the idea of having the attention of 200 people on me, for even 2 mins.
The engagement party is a big expense and I feel bad that both of out parents are shelling out all this cash. If it were up to us to fork out 15-18k this party would not be happening.
We’ve had to go through picking out a band, center pieces, the meal, invitations, and soon we’ll have to do a seating chart, engagement photos and etc. All the things we were planning on skipping have (and will soon have to be) done.
I just want to get it all over with, so we can look forward to our wedding in Vegas. The way we want to do it.
Just try your best to enjoy the process, as much as its stresses me (& FI) out, It has been more fun then I expected.. Once I send out our invites (The end of Aug!) I think I’ll feel like everything thats in my control will be 99% done!