Post # 1
I know why grooms traditionally stand on the right at the alter, but since I don’t see the need for him to defend me from possible “bride thieves”, would it be totally weird if we switched sides and my attendants and I stood on the right side, and my FI and his men stood on the left?
I still want my guests to sit on the left side.
We are not having a traditional wedding, not in a church, pastor wouldn’t care either way.
So what do you bees think? Would it totally confuse my guests? Would it be too Weird?
The reason I want to do it is because my left side is my better side and I’m having a side bun on that side and my hair pin/veil will also be on that side (birdcage veil), so I’d rather if that was the side that was in all the pictures when FI and I are facing eachother.
Post # 3
We switched sides but the other way. In Jewish weddings the bride stands on the right and the groom on the left. But we switched sides and I stood on the left because I wanted my right profile and the right side of my hair in the ceremony photos. Our rabbi said it was untraditional but ultimately up to us.
Post # 4
I plan on doing the same thing for the exact same reasons.. My left side is my good side and I will have a hair piece on that side.
Post # 5
I can never remember which side the bride is supposed to stand on in the first place, so I doubt your guest will notice or care.
Also, if the wedding book I bought is correct, then in Christian weddings, brides are on the left and grooms on the right but it is reversed for Jewish weddings. So if you’re not having a religious ceremony I don’t see it mattering at all.
Either way, it’s your wedding so just do what will make you feel the most beautiful and happy. Even if someone is initially confused I am sure they will forget about it as soon as the ceremony starts.
Post # 6
I think it’s fine if you want to stand on the right and him on the left. I think it’s weird if you want to have a “bride’s side” and a “groom’s side” for the guest but not have them align with where you’re standing. I would either seat your guests on the side you’ll be standing on, or else not do bride’s/groom’s side seating at all.
Post # 7
We switched sides (I was on the right, husband was on the left) because I have a colorful half sleeve tattoo on my right arm and thought it’d be too distracting if I stood on the traditional left side. I also had a lovely flower tucked behind my left ear that I wanted to show off. We had the families switch sides as well, though. Why do you want your guests to remain on the left side if you’re switching?
Post # 8
@FortiesFlare: I never really thought about this and now I am thinking about my wedding pictures and I was on the right!
Post # 9
@FortiesFlare: you can do whatever you want
Post # 10
I want my guests on the opposite side of me because instead of staring at my back, they will have a diagonal view of me during the ceremony. I know that probsbly sounds really silly.
But whenever I’m at a wedding, I always wish that I could see the persons face that I’m there to see (ie, MY friend) and although I of course don’t mind seeing the grooms face (or vice versa) I’d rather see the persons face I’m closer too.
Does that make sense?
Post # 11
Then your easiest and best solution is probably to say nothing about dictating sides. Most people will probably assume bride-on-left-groom-on-right and seat themselves accordingly, and you’ll get the result you want without having to micromanage it.
Post # 12
Another one here for switching sides for vanity reasons. My left side is my good side, the side where my bangs lay, where my hair will be, etc. It’s just better that way. 🙂 We don’t have seating “sides,” though, just four rows of seats and we’re not coming in from the back anyway.
Post # 13
Sorry I should have specified. Our guests will be seated in their dinner seats for the ceremony. And there will definetly be my family on one side his family on the other. There will be no changing seats between ceremony/dinner.