Synagogue Kiddush to Celebrate Non-Jewish Wedding

posted 3 years ago in Interfaith
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@GHPage:  I see what you are saying. Here is the thing: Judaism is not just a religion, it’s culture. And that is really what this is about. Part of the culture is about sharing joy with the community. I realize this is an awkward situation for you because services are pretty religious, however the oneg/kiddush afterward are religious and cultural. I think your in laws are excited and overjoyed and want to show you off to the people who matter to them. They respected your culture at your wedding, so maybe you can respect theirs. I realize that it’s complicated because it has to do with you, but I think it’s unfair to expect them to change their religious observance because of your beliefs. 

You don’t necessarily have to go to the kiddush, but I think it would be a sign of mutual respect to your in laws if you did.

I think people have this view that Atheism is the absence of religion, but truly it is its own belief system (construably a religion), and I personally believe that all belief systems deserve respect. That’s why I say that they respected your beliefs and maybe you could reach out to them by respecting theirs. 

Hope it went okay!

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