Post # 1
Does anyone know if its ok to have tables that are half empty at a wedding or is it better full?
Here’s the deal…my fiance and I worked out the perfect seating arrangement…our tables seats 10. And we have 8 tables with 10 ppl, 2 tables with 9 ppl, and 1 table with 8 people…so overall, it looks “full” and even.
And then my mother in law got involved and is insistant that certain people cannot sit here and these people must sit there. So now, we have 6 tables with 10 ppl, 1 table with 6 ppl, 1 table with 5 ppl, 2 tables with 9 ppl, and 1 table with 8 ppl
My question is, would the Mother-In-Law arrangement look funny in pictures? Isn’t the point of a wedding have strangers and friends meet and the joining of families? Don’t people expect a few people they know and a few strangers all at their table???
I look forward to your advise/suggestions.
Post # 3
I only did reserve table sitting, and yes I want ppl to talk and mingle with other ppl or be comfortable with other ppl they know so, I did not do a table arrangment. I went to a wedding and they had two ppl that was dating sitting at differnt tables and friends that work with each other sit at diff tables and they ened up switching someone else.
Post # 4
We’ve ended up with sort of a funny arrangement as well. Our tables seat 8 or 9. We have some with 9, some with 8, some with 7 and one with 6. It’s hard when you are trying to put the right people together. I’m hoping it isn’t a big deal either! As for the pictures – is your photographer going to take lots of photos of the full room with everyone sitting down? Reception shots will look fine I’m sure – there would be people missing from tables for drinking and washroom breaks anyways!
Post # 5
My mother-in-law did the same thing. I opted to have full tables instead, and it didn’t matter because no one stayed in their seats long enough for the photographer to catch a full table in pictures. I would say, if it worries you, seat the tables full. If you are nonmplussed about it, let your mother-in-law win this one, there will be bigger fights to pick with her in the future. 😉 However, sitting full tables created an unfortunate coincidence at my wedding. I sat my cousin and his girlfriend with a married couple (friends of my parents) around the same age as them. Come to find out, the husband had had an affair with my cousin’s girlfriend several years prior. How was I supposed to know? I’m sure this was a very very rare occurance, but I haven’t shared it on wedding bee so I thought I would share it now!
Post # 6
We didn’t ask anyone to look at our table arrangements. We have some tables with 8 and some with 7. We set up the tables today, and when it was all set up, you couldn’t tell that some tables had different amounts.
I think the thing you need to make sure you do is mix the tables in together. Have a table of 5 next to a table of 8, a table of 6 next to a table of 9, etc. Don’t have all the tables arranged so it’s noticeable that there are different amounts at different tables.
Ours went like this
Table 1 (8 ppl) Table 2 (8 ppl) Table 3 (7 ppl)
Table 6 (7 ppl) Table 5 (7 ppl) Table 4 (8 ppl)
Table 7 (8 ppl) Table 8 (8 ppl) Table 9 (7 ppl)
We also staggered the tables so they didn’t line up in a grid, which also makes it all look blended.
Your other option is to just go back to your original plan… I bet no one, except one person, would care!
Post # 7
Our tables aren’t even either. Ours sit 8, most have 6, some have 8, and one has 4 (my younger brothers & FI’s cousins that are all the same age).
Post # 8
I think it would look better with as many tables as full as possible, but if your Mother-In-Law thinks that certain members of the family do not get along, it may be better to go with the more scattered seating arrangement.
Post # 9
@hcantrell0302: whoa! that’s crazy!
My tables were totally uneven. While most had 8-10, several just had just 6, and I think one ended up with 5. Mingling and meeting new people is nice and all, but most of our friends had traveled a long way to be at our wedding, and there are many different groups of friends that do not get to see each other often, so there was no way I was going to split them up!
I might feel differently if more people were local, or if there were more individuals who didn’t know other people. Also, the no-shows screwed up some well-thought out plans anyway. Bottom line, try not to stress about this too much!