Post # 1
My fiance and I have decided to attempt table hopping at the reception to say hello and thank you to guests. I have a couple of reservations lingering.
I’m just not sure what the best time for this is. I’ve read that people do it during the meal but we’d like to ensure that we eat properly and secondly, if I were a guest, I personally wouldn’t like my picture taken with the couple whilst stuffing my face. I’m also afraid that someone’s food might spill on my dress at that time. So we thought about doing it during dessert which will just be our wedding cake. Has anyone done that before? What’s your take on that?
I’m also wondering: Can we skip tabble hopping altogether and just give a vote of thanks? I’m an introvert and working a crowd isn’t my forte.
Post # 3
Skip table hopping for several reasons 1) you need to eat, 2) bride and grooms interrupt table talk whrn they do this 3) pics taken slow down the quick chat with each guest .
Instead have a receiving line. Allow each guest to take a pic with you then. Your photog can take the pic and make available for guests. Or let everyone crank out their phones this one time for a photo. The receiving line can take place immediately following the ceremony as a bridge from ceremony to cocktail hour.
Then at dinner give one last thank you- a group thank you.
I haven’t been to a weddinv yet where cake was served and everyone was seated at the tables to eat it. Plus cake is passed out along with coffee service usually. You definitely don’t want hot coffee spilled on you if yourun into a server.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
@HBO: i have been to weddings i have been to where the B&G come round through dinner and tbh it felt forced and like they were ‘ticking the box’ of speaking to everyone while we were all in one place. the chit chat wasnt personal and tended to be dinner orientated. would have been nicer to chat to them at another point in the day.
we didnt table hop – and i dont think people minded. we circulated after the ceremony (before our pictures) and during the drinks reception (after photos) and then cought anyone we hadnt said hello and thanks to after dinner.
as long as you make an effort to speak to everyone at some point throughout the day and they will be more than happy 🙂
Post # 5
@weird_bunny: so true about it feeling forced. Our table was told to hurry up before because there were other tables to see. That didn’t feel nice.
Post # 6
I’m personally not a fan of the table hopping, but unless you have a very small guest list I don’t think doing it during cake is going to be enough time.
Post # 7
We table hopped. We were served first, but honestly must tables were done eating before we got there, which worked out better. We hugged everyone and everyone got up and mingled (it would have been super awkward to have everyone sitting while we said hi and would have felt forced). Essentially we made time to try to mingle with all of our guests. It wasn’t hard for me, I felt super grateful that all those people came out to celebrate our day and I really wanted to see them. It was one of the parts I enjoyed most out of the day.
Post # 8
We table hopped, and even if it is “ticking a box”, depending on how many people are in attendance, you can’t exactly have a deep conversation with all of them. We made our rounds to say thank you for coming, and then mingled the rest of the night. Personally, I find receiving lines awkward and annoying… Who wants to stand in line trying to get out to the reception? At least they can eat and chat while they wait to see to the bride and groom.
Post # 9
@HBO: Are you going to cocktail hour? Can you do it then?
I think that is what we are going to try as we are doing pictures beforehand. I dont like receiving lines – I think they are awkward and weird. Plus, it will be July and outside, so I am NOT standing outside in that heat any longer than I have to!
If we don’t get everyone at cocktail hour, we will definitely go around at dinner time to the tables.
Post # 10
You and your new husband will need to greet each guest individually since they came to your wedding. You can do this most easily with a receiving line or table hopping at a time when everyone’s seated. You could also try to just make sure you talk to everyone throughout (that seems like someone would be missed unless you have a very small wedding or someone is keeping track if everybody youve talked to).
ppl can easily finish their bite to say congrats and it’s not as if you get close to their plates- I don’t get the risk for food being spilled on your dress. If you’re worried about that, you can do a receiving line of just you 2.
Whether you can table hop during cake depends on your wedding. For nearly every wedding I’ve been to, tons of ppl aren’t seated during cake- they’re on and off the dance floor and standing mingling.
When ppl go through all they do to attend, give gifts, etc., a group thank you usually isn’t enough.
Post # 10
We did a receiving line right after the wedding ceremony and then we table hopped during the reception. Also, some guests came over to our sweetheart table to say hi and take photos. There was some time between courses served at the reception so we mingled then. I didn’t think about getting food on my dress! But luckily, it didn’t happen!
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens
We are planning a gap (oh, the horror!) between the ceremony and reception of several hours. We are hoping this will ease the panicked feeling of needing to see everyone during dinner! We are going to have areas to lounge, lunch foods (although the actual reception will be a dinner reception), lawn games, areas to cool down and visit, and there are several wineries and a quaint downtown nearby. At some point while people are seated during the reception we are planning to have the Mission: Impossible music play, and our MC/DJ/family friend will announce that we have 5 minutes to get around to each table and get a picture with everyone at the table. The guests are responsible for figuring out the poses for the photos, and instructing us where to go. I’m thinking that I’ll give 30 seconds per table, and so I’ll know the actual estimated time once we know how many guests we’ll have.
Post # 12
We’re going to attend our cocktail hour and do it then. Hit up the older guests especially, the younger ones we will see on the dance floor.
We’re doing a first look and taking almost all of our formal portraits before the wedding just so we can do this. Also, I am NOT missing part of our party just to have more formals. I will be sitting down and consuming our amazing dinner at the reception. Then dancing.
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center
We table hopped during dinner to talk with all of our guests. Before the ceremony, we had a first look and took all of our pictures, so after the ceremony we ate dinner by ourselves in the bridal suite. It was really nice and relaxing to share a moment alone with each other.
Post # 13
DH and I table hopped and it turned out great! I didn’t feel like it was forced at all. Then again, DH and I are big talkers, so we knew a receiving line would be too slow for our wedding. We had a buffet, so we made sure that we got our food first, and we ended up being done eating before some people had even served themselves. We table hopped right after we finished eating, and we were done visiting in about 30 minutes (we had about 110 people across 12 tables).
Whatever you do, I wouldn’t skip personally talking to each gust. A lot of people (including myself) don’t like standing in receiving lines, but even that’s better than simply giving a speech. If you give a vote of thanks, I would do it in combination with another option.