Post # 1
When people talk about table visits for greeting/thanking guests, when are they done? The only time all guests would be seated is during dinner, but I’d like to eat during dinner! What am I missing here?
Adding a part B to this question: If we will be present at cocktail hour, mingling twitch our guests do we still need to do table visits? But for a few specific folks that we know we missed during cocktail hour? I’m sorry but we are sitting down to eat & I’m not scarfing food down in a frenzy. I think it’s crap that a bride & groom shouldn’t get to eat.
Post # 3
@vess5: We did ours during dinner. I had no appetite all day from the excitement/ emotion so it worked out for us.
You could ask for the Head table to be served 1st so that you guys get your food and can eat right away then once you’re finished– make your way around to the tables
Post # 4
This is the reason the bride/groom always say they never got a chance to eat at their own wedding. You usually have to go around during dinner. Sorry!
At our wedding, my husband and I started making our rounds while they were serving dinner. We took a 3 minute break and sat at our table to grab a few bites, then we were back making rounds again.
Post # 5
Yes, unfortunately, during dinner. Which is why so many brides and grooms don’t get to eat on their wedding day! They are too busy greeting guests. We will be eating our dinner quickly before entering the reception (while the guests are still at cocktail hour), and then will be free to greet them at their tables without missing having to miss out on our dinner.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@vess5: The head table is served first, so you will have time to make table visits while your guests are still eating, having received their food later. Or you can do the table visits after you cut the cake. Depends on your schedule!
They’re just so much more convenient, you’re not asking your guests to stand in a line to greet you, they can be seated and eating/drinking while you make your visits, not just waiting for you!
Post # 7
If you decide to do table visits you are either skipping dinner or missing some of your guests. Most brides who say they have done this complain about missing both dinner and some of their guests.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Fox Hill Inn
@vess5: our table was server first so we had a chance to eat! (Although I didn’t have much of an appetite, I at least ate a little!)
I would make sure your caterer has instructions to serve you first!
That being said, we did not get the chance to visit every table. But the tables we missed were very close friends that we talked to/greeted either at the bar or on the dance floor.
Post # 9
Traditionally, table visits are done during dinner. That’s why we did a modified receiving line – I wanted to be able to eat! I would not rely on speaking with everyone during cocktail hour unless you have a very small wedding (around 30 or less) simply because it’s hard to keep track of everyone and you’re likely to miss people. And, for me, that’s a big no-no.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
@vess5: i wrote on a similar thread earlier today about table visits. i personally dont like them as a guest and didnt do them as a bride. i think they feel forced and hurried. the chit chat usually revolves around the dinner and have to be done quickly fit everyone in whilst they are trying to eat. i also think its a bit of a ‘cop-out’ as you can do a blanket thankyou to everyone at the table instead of personal ones to the individuals. maybe thats just me though.
me and DH made sure that we visited everyone throughout the day and had a ‘proper’ chat, including a hello and thanks for coming. there was plenty of time to do this after the ceremony, during the drinks reception and then after dinner.
Post # 11
I would speak with your venue before assuming the head table will be served first. We were all served at the same time so the only way we would have finished eating before everyone else was if we asked for our food to be brought out before everyone else’s food.
Post # 12
I went around after I “ate”. I wasn’t very hungry and only had a few bites. It worked out well. I was finished greeting my guests by the time the dance floor opened and was able to dance all night. My husband, however, got caught in the lobby (he went to use the bathroom during dinner) and had to “make his rounds” while I was dancing and having fun. That’s why all the dancing pictures you can see me but there’s only a few with him LOL.
Post # 13
@vess5: We ate and did table visits as dinner was winding down and the dancing/party part of the evening was starting.
I do think a bride and groom need to make time to visit each table. If some of that table are up and dancing or whatever, that’s fine – but as hosts, you need to make every effort to spend time with all the guests.
Post # 14
I feel exactly the same way about “table visits”, the terminology itself feels forced. Thanks for your reply, I think this is the approach we will take. I hosted a party of about 90 last march and was able to speak to each guest personally, I see no reason this should be any different. We should be able to cover a lot if ground during cocktail hour, then we have loads of time as dinner winds down & throughout the rest of the night.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
@vess5: yeah, you’ll have plenty of time – we did elderly guests and old fashioned guests (ones that had certain expectations of what a wedding should be) straight after the ceremony – with a view that they could then settle themselves for the day and not worry about ‘hanging around’ for us. then onto other family members during the drinks reception. we knew that our friends would be with us to the very end so could wait for later on in the day for a good old chinwag.
guests appreciate that its a busy day and know that at some point they will get to talk to you. i dont think anyone expects it to be during dinner.
also – not walking around during dinner gave me and Mr weird_bunny some proper time ‘alone’ (well, as alone as you can get in a room full of people! LOL)
Post # 16
@vess5: We will be attending cocktail hour and greeting our guests at that time. If we miss people we will go around and visit those people after we eat. I definitely do not want to skip dinner especially if I’ll be drinking.