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My mother talked to me about opening a bottle of champagne right before we walk down the isle. (we also like to dabble in "other things" ... don't worry, we're classy lol)
Anyway, I mentioned this to my FI and he asked me NOT to have a drink before going down the isle (not to mention, I can't dabble in those other things either). lol Its a daily routine for me! But, I appreciate what he's saying.
So, is it taboo to do something like that? Classy? Not a good idea? What do you think bees!!!
I've been to a wedding where they served the GUESTS alcohol before the ceremony (champagne punch)...I personally don't think it's a big deal to have the champagne, but I think your FI objecting to it is more of the problem.
Having a mimosa is on my list for pre-wedding stuff. Dabbling I'm not so sure about. I don't dabble (well at least I don't think I do) and I don't think it's classy at all and definatley not when you are mentioning your dabbling in a public forum.
I'm not sure about your 'other things,' lol, since I've only drank, but I know plenty of people have like, one glass of wine or something before they go down the aisle.
Personally, my cheeks turn bright red after one sip of anything with alcohol in it, so that won't be an option for me, lol.
If your FI doesn't want you to and it's not a big deal to you, though, I would just skip it.
I've never heard of anything bad about having a drink before going down the aisle.
Hubby and I aren't drinkers so it wasn't an issue for us, but I wouldn't want him to have a shot or anything before going down b/c I want him to be sober while saying his vows, not need a drink to do it. Did you ask what his reasons were?
I have every intention of enjoying a bottle (or two) of champagne with my girls while getting ready. I dont know that I will have anything right before walking down the aisle but I certainly dont see anything wrong with that. As for the "dabbling in other things", if your talking about the same thing I'm thinking, I'm right there with ya!
ETA: As a side note, we're getting ready like HOURS before our ceremony so the odds of the alcohol still being in my system enough to impact me is pretty slim, though I still dont see a problem with drinking before hand. As long as you can handle your alcohol and wont be a sloppy drunk, I say go for it! Champagne and "dabbling" relaxes me. =)
We're opening a bottle of wine while getting ready, I can guarantee you that! As long as you don't get trashed I think it's acceptable.
I had a mimosa before I walked down the isle! It was more just b/c i wanted to have a mimosa vs. calming any nerves or anything like that.
Psh it's just champagne. You're not taking a shot of tequila here. Although, I've seen it! I don't see the big deal in having a toast with your girls....does your FI think you're going to be drunk or something? i mean, you say it's a "daily routine" for you...
I always see pics of brides doing a champagne toast in their suite before leaving for pics. I don't think it's taboo or unclassy. As long as you aren't downing tequila body shots, I think you're good ;-)
Nothing wrong with a spot of champers before hand. The only time I would think that was weird is if your wedding was early in the morning!
Don't worry bees ... the "dabbling" isn't anything bad or extreme. lol I know its a public forum and I would never disrespect my fellow bees. :)
But, I think @CaitMarae has the right idea!!! lol But, the drink is my main concern. And thank you for the comments and advice, keep me coming!! It will help when I show my FI the poll!!! :)
I'm pretty sure if I don't have a drink before walking down the aisle I will be a bundle of nerves! I know FI and his groomsmen plan on having a couple too, but we all promised that no one would be drunk before the reception! (Our ceremony is at 4:00pm though and not in a church either).
The girls and I will have some mimosas while getting ready and I'm sure another bottle will be opened before the ceremony...nothing too crazy, but it is a celebration after all!
As far as "dabbling" goes I'm not sure what you mean, but I'm from BC so smoking a joint at a wedding happens a lot. I don't smoke that stuff though (not since high school parties at least!) and I certainly wouldn't want to just before walking down the aisle.....I want to remember my vows and hubbie's face!
We had some champagne while we were getting ready and the guys did as well. I had a buzz for about a half hour and then it went away, lol. I did ask DH not to have scotch (his drink of choice) because I didn't want him t ohave old man breath during the ceremony. He ended up only being able to have a few sips of champagne because he was so nervous!
I think the bridal party may have champagne while we are getting ready, but that will be a few hours before walking down the aisle. I wouldn't drink immediately before walking down, but a mimosa or so while your getting your hair done? No big deal.
We're going to have a mimosa while we get ready for my wedding. No one is going to get wasted, and I'll be surprised if we get to even finish the one drink.
But what were your FI's reasons for asking you not to drink?
My MIL was a little surprised when we were popping open bottles of champagne while getting ready but the most anyone had was 2 glasses over 3 hours so it wasn't like anyone was anywhere close to being drunk (and it was several hours before the ceremony). One of my husband's groomsmen then brought whiskey to pictures (we took these before the ceremony) so we both took a little swig, mine was more like a dab on my tongue, I hate whisky, but it's a kind of funny picture. None of our bridesmaids or groomsmen are big drunks so we trusted them not to get loaded. Even 12 hours later (we had a loonnng celebration) I think everyone was tipsy and dancing and having a good time but no one was stupidly drunk. I wouldn't have wanted me or my husband to be anything close to tipsy or drunk but neither of us saw anything wrong with having a little to get in the celebratory mood and relax.
I think the key for us was water though. Our caterers were fantastic about giving the wedding party water throughout the day and night.
We had mimosas while getting our hair/makeup done but the was 6+ hours before the ceremony. I'd never want alcohol in mine (or DH's) system while saying our vows. It just feels wrong to me. Therefore - having a drink of anything before walking down the aisle is not okay, IMO.
We also had mimosas while we were getting ready too! I don't think it's a bad idea unless you're planning on getting completely wasted before you walk down the aisle. Then it is a bad idea!
Wait. I'm having a morning wedding. If I put a drop of OJ in my champagne does that make it okay? I realllly hope so!
We got married next to a Mexican restaurant. DH's brother (the best man) took us to the bar right before we were about to get married and bought us each a drink. I had a cosmo.
There were a group of drunk people hanging out and they were SO EXCITED for us they took a shot. We have a great picture of us all decked out in wedding garb with that crew.
Right before we left, I went to reapply my lipgloss and one of the guys grabbed it and did it for me. They were hilarious.
For those who asked - the "daily routine" is the dabbling, not the drinking. I am not much of a drinker (at all) so I probably wouldn't even finish a glass of champagne. (I have very low tolerance) lol I DEFINITELY wouldn't want to be walking down the isle feeling tipsy AT ALL (I have control issues lol so I wouldn't want that feeling)
Yes, I've asked my FI his thoughts ... and he just feels that it shouldn't be done. Basically bc he doesn't want us to be "tipsy" while saying the vows and pledging our love. I do understand and it doesn't bother me either way; but I wanted everyones opinion. So thanks bees!
Yeah, if you'll get tipsy from a glass of champagne, skip it.
I, for one, have a low tolerance and can have a glass and not even feel it.
Hi! I think a glass of champagne or a mimosa is in order. Unless, like you said, you have 0 tolerance and get tipsy from it! Couple that with nerves and it might be an uncomfortable situation.
As for dabbling - nothing wrong with that imo, but not before the wedding, either. Even for a daily dabbler, it would probably be noticeable to others. So I would skip til later so you aren't fuzzy at all before those vows! :)
@luckyprincess: :) Thanks for understanding on that one and I appreciate the thought. You're probably right about that dabbling thang. Now, onto the glass of champagne! lol
@njm1313: :) Thank YOU for giving me a new term for some friends: daily dabbler, lol
@luckyprincess: "As for dabbling - nothing wrong with that imo, but not before the wedding, either. Even for a daily dabbler, it would probably be noticeable to others. So I would skip til later so you aren't fuzzy at all before those vows! :)"
So true. When I dabble, my eyes are a dead giveaway.
I waited until the after-party for the dabbling. ;)
I'm sitting at my desk giggling at "daily dabbler." Too funny!
It's your special day! If you'd like a glass (or two) of champagne while getting ready, go for it!
I spoke to a friend about how he "dabbled" with his wife during the reception (hahahaha we are talkign about having sex right? j/k j/k).. anyway he said even though he's a daily dabbler the situation that they were in made it a horrible experience. Imagine having to be on your A game with all eyes on you for 6 hours straight. In this case I think its more relaxing not to worry about it than to do it and worry that everyone knows you did.
But theres always the wedding night to dabble your heart out ;)
(hahaha sorry, just love the dabbling terminology)
My bridesmaids and I mixed up pitchers of Sangria for the wedding, so of course we had to try out each batch... for quality control purposes. :) No big deal.
I have such understanding bees. :) You gals are great!!!!
And you're right, we'll probably "dabble" after the wedding and party // that way it doesn't show in pictures. lol
We had pre-wedding mimosas the morning of. Just dont get drunk... thatd be a trainwreck.
My ceremony starts at 10:30, so I am already planning on how I am going to get that Mimosa beforehand.
I don't see anything wrong w/ it, as long as no one is drunk.
I REALLY wish I would've had a glass of champagne or a mimosa before leaving for the ceremony. I think it would've calmed me down a little.
The bridal party and my mom will be having mimosas while we're getting ready... But my ceremony will probably be around 2:30 or 3, so I think a few drinks around lunch or before won't be a big deal.
My ceremony doesn't start until 7:30pm, so I plan on having a mimosa or two while we are getting ready. Not much more than that though, I am a lightweight, LOL!
I had a few sips of champagne with my BMs before walking down the aisle. It was no big deal as I didn't feel "altered" in any way. I don't see the harm, as long as you can control yourself and not get wasted! 
I had no idea the Bee was full of potheads!! ;-)
I don't think there's anything wrong with a little champagne before the ceremony. I do want to make sure I don't have so much that I get any more emotional than i already will be though (that was a fairly complicated sentence...)
We popped a bottle of champagne while getting ready. I didn't partake then, because I had a very short amount of time to get ready, but I definitely downed a glass right before the ceremony started. I was a bundle of nerves, and needed to calm them, fast. Didn't get drunk, or anything.
It is a good way to celebrate. I will feed my bms a snack type lunch while getting ready and we will open a bottle of champagne or two between all the girls in the getting ready room.
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