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    juntosdois    March 3, 2012   orlando, florida

    i am considering a "destination" wedding in st. augustine, most of my guests are from south carolina, so it is like a 6 hour drive, not a huge deal, but enough to consider it destination. the wedding itself is also slightly under 50 guests and my sc guests are all relatives, and i found the most amazing venue, an enormous beach house that sleeps 22! the cost includes a 4 night stay, so i want to invite my bridal party and their respective spouses to stay in the house. my dilemma is this, it is pricey, but is it really awful to ask those staying in the house to pitch in $100 per couple? otherwise they would be staying in hotels and be spending way more than that, and i am not asking them to pitch in any other way, i am having the event catered, cake done professionally, etc. honestly, my bridal party isn't doing anything at all, they all live in other states, and i will only be seeing them right before the wedding. i understand that it almost sounds like i am asking for compensation for easy bridal party duties, that is not it at all, i just don't think i need to give everyone a free 4 day vacation on my parents' dime. it is hard to convey it, but i really am not asking for a handout, just trying to take a little pressure off.

     
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    mcnetn3    August 13, 2011   North Carolina

    I think it's okay to ask them if they 'want to stay with you, it'll be $100/couple' or tell them they can stay somewhere else if they'd like.  I wouldn't make it sound like they have to stay there or that you'd prefer it, just that it's a low cost option for them that you think would be fun.

     
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    andielovesj    August 13, 2011  

    As long as it is an option I think it is ok.  But be prepared that they choose to stay somewhere a little more private.

    This opinion also hinges on them all having their own rooms in the shared house.

     
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    julies1949      

    I really don't like the word tacky.

    I agree with the pp's. As long as you make it an option, and be clear that each couple has their own room, I think it is fine to offer the house as their accomodation. They are obviously going to have expenses for accomodation in any case.

    Be prepared that (a) some may want to have a quiet getaway on their own and (b) these things sometimes don't turn out to be the blissful experience you imagined.

     

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