Tacky, horrible, & "covering your plate"

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

been posted many times already 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

@wabanzi:  Yeah this has been posted a lot.

 

I think covering your plate is a pretty good guide honestly.

 

Because that can’t be more than 50-80 bucks.

 

I mean.. even if it adds up to about $300 per person.. that’s the total. The DECORATIONS aren’t on your PLATE! Neither is the venue or the chair cover!

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

@wabanzi:  Oh trust me.. something like that? We had it on here probably within an hour of it being posted! LOL

Also, date twins 🙂 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

@wabanzi:  Did you know that next year will be the 100th anniversary of the start of world war 1?

In 1914 Franz Ferdinand was assassinated, bringing about the start of WWI.

Whoohoo history! 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Chrysoberyl:  In a lot of areas, it may cost $150-$200 per person to cover your plate.  I think people should give a gift that they are comfortable with.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

The response was really rude… but let’s be honest… that was a really **** gift. Embarassing for both parties.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@chrysoberyl  The cost of food varies drastically by area.  @louisianablue is very correct on the her price point.   I live in Chicago and my venue is $115 per person and it was on the low end for a city wedding.  I was quoted everything from $90 to $175.  The $90 venue included basics.  When you add cake, alcohol, or and appetizers it was around $130 so it really wasn’t as cheap as it looked.   You’d be hard pressed to find something even in the burbs for less than $80.  I’m not saying it can’t be done, but it is rare.  Money goes a lot farther the further you get outside a large metropolitan area.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

@dsp2013:  Your date is my birthday!

Wow that’s crazy. Money goes VERY far in Georgia in relation to a lot of the U.S. The most here is about 30 bucks a person.

:O That’s so crazy. If I lived anywhere else I probably wouldn’t have a wedding! 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Chrysoberyl:  My food is close to 175 per person.  That doesn’t include venue, chair covers, decoration, etc.  Just appetizers, food and wine, and no cake.  Yes its a lot but my guests are foodies and thye are dinning at the best known food venue in that particular city.  That was my way of thanking my guests in taking the time to be with us, not on frivolities, but joining us over good food.  So yes it is very possible someone could spend more than 50-80 bucks. I do agree with you that “cover your plate” should ONLY be about food and wine, some people throw in the total cost of the wedding like decor and that is in my opinion very poor taste.

 

That being said, even if someone spends 200 per plate for a guest, a host should NOT expect their guests to pay that amount (for starter how would they know except if you tell them and THAT is extremely tacky!) I am inviting friends who are in school/recently graduated do I expect them to dish that amount?  Nope not one iota!  Since I am more established, I would of course try to follow the “cover your plate” rule as I, as a guest, want to thank the host for their generosity and help them.  But that is my rule other people don’t have to follow it.  I just think either side should not try to burden/take advantage of the other party.  Simple really!

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Weddings are not fundraisers. I don’t think you should even expect your guests to bring a gift, and if they do then wonderful! If you can’t afford their plate and/or are only inviting them for the money in the first place then you shouldn’t even be inviting them at all. Rude.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Chrysoberyl:   Happy early birthday!  Living in the city can be expensive, but I wouldn’t give it up for the world. 

I also agree with @Ettalie.  I would never expect my guests to cover their plate.  We have people coming in from all over the country for the wedding.  What FI and I are comfortable spending for a wedding may not equal what a guest gives.  If they couldn’t afford a gift I wouldn’t be upset either.  I want them to give what they are comfortable with.  The most important thing is that they came to spend the day with us to celebrate.

 

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