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Tacky or Awesome: Reuse top of gown as outfit for another wedding?

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    lionsaoi    11/03/2007   Kansas City, MO

    I used a Watters two-piece gown for my wedding dress. (This one here: http://www.watters.com/product.php?coll=watters&showid=598 the top was in ivory and the skirt in oyster... I had a brown sash, too.)

    I have a wedding in a couple of weeks. I was thinking of wearing the top and paring it with a brightly colored skirt. Add some colorful accessories and great shoes and I'm good to go.

    Is this okay? Or tacky? I'm don't want to detract from the bride, but I can't really afford another nice outfit right now. What do you think?

     
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    Angel    July 15, 2005   Snohomish County, Washington State

    Originally (late 1800's- early 1950's ish), brides would wear a dress they could wear over again or one that they could repurpose. It sounds like you have a great opportunity to do the same. I say go for it....and if anyone gives you heck, just say you're bringing it back. :)

    Actually, I don't think the top would distract at all. I had a friend show up in a white mini dress with a white fur coat (which she looked aweseome in) and the bride (moi) was still the center of attention. (I mean really, who else is going to smile like the bride on her wedding day.)

    Hope this helps!

     
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    princesskittyHI    May 2007   Honolulu, HI

    Oh cute!  I don't think (no offense to anyone) that anyone other than the bride should be in all white, but white elements (white top, white skirt) are perfectly fine, IMHO.  Just maybe keep it on the DL that it's part of your bridal ensemble.  (Mostly so people who don't know you well don't think you're trying to talk about your wedding at another bride's wedding.)  And, it's totally not tacky; it's a beautiful top and deserves to be worn again! 

     
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    anna      

    it's a pretty top, but i would err on the side of caution and wear a different one(that isn't white) with the skirt you were planning to wear.  it's always better to be more conservative with this issue as you don't really know how the bride will react.  it's not really a good idea to call the bride and ask her either, as you'll be putting in her in an awkward position. 

     

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    joyful2    January 3, 2009   Central, South Carolina

    I think that would be awesome!

     
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    I think it would look great. Just steer clear of any other bridal-ish accessories, like flowers in your hair or elaborate jewelry. You'll be fine!

     
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    maple      

    great idea! As long as the skirt isn't at all white, I think it'll be super cute.

    I wouldn't mention to anyone that it was part of *my* wedding dress though. And I'd get some cute jewelry that goes with the skirt. Since it's a winter wedding, I'm sure you'll have some sort of covering or coat, and as long as that's not white too I think it's a great outfit.

     
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    vivian    8.8.08   O.C., CA

    Sorry - but I would say no.  I think it's always better to be more on the understated side than over the top at someone's wedding.  A little black dress is almost always appropriate.  Or maybe as anna suggested - pairing the skirt with a different top.  As a guest - I hate seeing other women in white, ivory, off-white in any instance.  IMHO

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    snmcdowell    9-13-08   Chicago

    I think you can wear it if none of the other guests were at your wedding, you never mention it's part of your wedding gown, and you feel awesome wearing it again. If there's any chance that someone will recognize it and say something that might make you feel tacky, then wear something else.

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    mrsallgood       NYC


    It's a great and practical idea, and I say go for it!

    No matter what anyone wears, the bride will be the star of the evening, and no way is a guest wearing a white article of clothing going to outshine her. Yes, wearing an all-white, floor length outfit to a wedding might be out of place(even though I have seen clueless women do that in some weddings I've been in..) but a light top with a colorful skirt and accessories is completely acceptable.
     
    By the way, Margaret Thatcher wore a blue velvet dress to her wedding, then shortened it and wore it for years. 
     

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    Buckeye    June 13, 2008   Ohio

    I say go for it too.  Especially if you're skirt is a different color, and if you're still a bit hesitant maybe bring a cute jacket to throw on over the top.

     
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    Sweeney2Be    Aug 23, 2008   Twin Cities Minnesota

    I think that top is WAY too cute not to ise again! Go for it!

     
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    piperbenjamin    June 2008   Philly

    really, it is a cute top that can definitely be worn again... but at another girls wedding? only if you wore a jacket.  i would especially say no if you are close to the bride & anticipate any photos taken together (usually from the waist up).  i would get over it quickly if a guest at my wedding wore white or ivory, but really every bride wants to be the center of attention on their day... aka the only one wearing white/ivory.

     
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    pancy    06/13/09   orange county/los angeles

    I think it is totally cute and a very practical idea. Nobody can upstage the bride on her own wedding day... but you will look great :) And personally, I want people to look nice on my wedding day! I want my BMs to be gorgeous and would rather have guests come in really nice apparel rather than jeans! have fun!

     
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    Yach    10/23/07   CT

    With a brightly colored skirt, it's a totally different outfit.  Go for it! 

     
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    mouse    September 11, 2009   Austin, TX

    Do it.  As long as you're not wearing white, you're gtg.

     

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